Is it true that I will go to hell because I am a lesbian and how can I know for sure?


No, the Bible never says lesbians are going to hell because they are lesbians. And you can know for sure you are going to heaven when you die. The Bible does make it clear that God is not a politically correct hybridization of Grandpa and Santa Claus. God's attributes - things that are true about God - include:

  1. Holiness
  2. Wisdom
  3. Sovereignty
  4. Eternality
  5. Mercy
  6. Faithfulness
  7. Love
  8. Righteousness
  9. Wrath
  10. Truth
The God of the Bible is holy. He possesses all of these attributes and therefore He cannot simply ignore sin. God's righteousness demands that our sins must be paid for.

The God of the Bible loves us and wants to save us from our sins. Because we sin and rebel against God, no matter how good our intentions, we are not good enough to get into heaven based on our own goodness.

Jesus paid for our sins
and God accepted His payment


God demands that sins must be paid for yet we are not good enough to pay for our own sins. So what's the solution? Because God loves you with an everlasting love, He sent Jesus to take your place, to pay for your sins (and mine!) so we could get saved and have fellowship with God.

We KNOW God accepted the payment Jesus made for our sins because God raised Jesus from the dead - that proves that Jesus' payment was exactly what God required. Does that make sense to you?

Now, the ONLY thing you need to do to be saved is to accept the payment Jesus made for you.

What Jesus says about Hell


Hell is mentioned a total of 54 times in the King James Bible, 31 times in the Old Testament and 23 times in the New Testament.

It is Jesus who mentions hell 16 of the 23 times in the New Testament (15 times in the Gospels, Matthew, Mark and Luke and once in Revelation 1:18). Isn't that interesting? Jesus mentioned hell so frequently because its a real place of fiery torment. If Jesus believed in hell enough to warn people not to go there, what will you do with that information?

That Jesus mentioned hell 16 times tells us that the subject of hell is serious and very important to Jesus. The most famous passage on hell in the Bible is in Luke 16 and Jesus tells the story.

There is only one reason people go to hell when they die. That reason is:

They did not trust Jesus Christ
as their Savior from sin.


No one goes to hell for being lesbian or gay or for being in a lesbian or gay relationship. No one goes to hell for being bisexual or transgendered. People go to hell because they thought their righteousness (good works or good intentions) were enough to get them into heaven.

In John 3, you can read it here, Jesus talked to a very famous, very good, very religious man named Nicodemus. Jesus told Nicodemus he must be born again. According to Jesus, if Nicodemus didn't get born again, he could never see the kingdom of God.

If you want to know for sure that you are born again/saved and going to heaven when you die, I invite you to take the Good Person test. Along with the test, you can watch a 4 minute video which explains about trusting Jesus.

The purpose of this website is to explain that God does not condemn lesbians and gays the way some Christians say He does. God wants to save us just like He will save anyone who calls on Him. Click any button on the NavBar and begin exploring the wonderful good news God has for lesbians and gays.

I recommend these Links to help explain how much God loves you and what Jesus did in dying on the Cross for your sins. God wants to save you and adopt you into the family of God, Ephesians 1:5. All He is waiting for is for you to say Yes.

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1. Does Romans 1:26 condemn lesbians?

2. Are lesbians treated the same as gays in the Bible?

3. Is there any evidence of an actual gay marriage in the Bible?

4. Does the Bible say that Jesus spent three days and three nights in hell - sheol - or hades?

5. What is the purpose of committed gay relationships?

6. Do you agree that lesbians and gays deserve equal rights?

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Feb 16, 2012
 you know the answer in your heart
by: homar

Rick's comment: Is it too much to ask that you deal with what the Bible says, in context? I find it instructive that so many folks post comments which do not address our arguments.

Your vague threats and insipid "you know in your heart of hearts" assertions add nothing to the conversation. Of course, the reason you make arguments like that is because your side does not have God's truth.

Homar writes: I know it's nice to try and find rationale to make it acceptable to God the lifestyles that we are living today, but I think in our heart of hearts we know how God views this.

I struggled with it for many yrs and knew that when I did rebell and decide that it was just too unfair that I should not get to be in a loving relationship like everyone else, I knew the truth in my heart. I loved what I was doing but I also was very aware as to where it would ultimately lead me.

Scripture is really quite clear and you must either accept the whole bible or none of it.
God is coming to judge us in the not so distant future and the "christian ministers" who have been deluding the flock will be most severely punished. Hold on tightly to His word and you will have every reward and happiness that you sacrificed for His sake in this life. God bless you in your struggles.
Sep 13, 2012
 Isn't Just that
by: Anonymous

It is true that undevoted Christians and non-Christians go to Hell because of their proud arrogance of true justification. However, when we accept Jesus Christ into our lives, we should no longer dwell in sin as a spiritually dead person should, but rather, we are to cast off all wickedness and unrighteousness and put on what is pure and holy.

In Colossians 3:5, it clearly states this: "So put all evil things out of your life: sexual sinning, doing evil..."

Sexual sinning is sexual immorality, and sexual immorality is sin, for God created Adam and Eve, not Adam 1 and 2 nor Eve 1 and 2.

"Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination" (Leviticus 18:22). "If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them" (Leviticus 20:13). In these passages homosexuality is condemned as a prime example of sin, a sexual perversion.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 - "Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God."

Homosexuals won't inherit the Kingdom of God, and if you do not believe all of Scripture, then you're saying that God should not be trusted, because 2 Tim 3:16 says the Word is God's very words.

Rick's comment: Your reasoning is so juvenile as to be silly. Time to leave elementary school logic on the playground, perhaps next to the jungle gym, and grow up.

You need to memorize 2 Timothy 2:15 this week and then, EVERY time you read the Bible, apply 2 Tim 2:15 to what you read. That helps to insure that you get the context right. Many thanks for stopping by.

Oh, and if you're seriously interested in the passages you alluded to, please click the links on my NavBar under, What The Bible Says.
Oct 14, 2012
 just curious
by: curious

The bible states that all sin are weighed the same none is greater than the other. The bible also stated in the old testiment that eatin unclean food was a sin, Lev 11, (correct me if I am wrong) however in the new testiment all food was made clean, Acts 10 and 11, (correct me again if I am wrong) so if all sin are weighed the same, none greater than the other, eating certain food was unclean in the old testiment are now clean in the new testiment so why arent homosexuality made from unclean to clean?

I am just curious because from the time I was a child I knew I liked women and I listen to my grandparent and family teaching and beliefs and married a so call equal yoke, which ended up in years of ill treatment and him cheating on me resulting in divorce.

Then I got raped by a man and had two other children (total 3) with numerous failed relationships. Havent I not still sinned?

SO I am no different from a homosexual so what makes it right for me to be saved and not the homosexual? Why do I have to continue my life searching for something that is just not working out? Am I destined to just be alone?
Jan 27, 2013
 when will i be loved
by: Tabitha

I was dating a woman and she broke up with me because pastor mike told her that we were sinning I've leaved and loved this woman for 8 years now and 4 of those years we were a couple. So I believe that if God sees all that he would have known that I would be a lesbian and if god really did love his children then why would he put us on this earth just so we would have to live unhappy lives and than go to hell?
Apr 09, 2014
 Should I break up with my girlfriend?
by: Bonnie

I see everywhere that the only way to repent of homosexuality is to apologize and stop doing it. Does this mean that I have to break up with my girlfriend, who makes me happier than I've ever been, supports me in all that I do, lifts my spirits, and is my best friend and confidant? That would truly break me, and I'm already suffering the worst depression in my entire life because of my mom's failing health and my ever-present fear of death.

So what? I just break up with her because she has female genitals and not male ones? If she was a boy, it would be OK? I don't understand how being with someone who makes me happy is wrong. How can love be wrong? If God is love, then wouldn't He support all love if it is true? Why would He put us in each other's lives and watch us fall in love only to condemn us for it and need us to break up to be forgiven? I'm so confused. I want to go to Heaven when I die, but is this what is going to stop me? I've even dated boys in the past and none of them made me as happy as she does. I don't get it. I'm so confused and miserable.

Rick's comment: Hi Bonnie - the Bible never tells anyone to repent of homosexuality. This website explains that it it not a sin to be gay, not a sin to be in a gay relationship. A good place to start is my Gay Christian FAQ.

Here is what the Bible teaches about repentance.

It helps to get yourself grounded Biblically and spiritually by studying the Bible for yourself. My FREE Downloads Page is a wonderful place to start.

Always remember Bonnie, that God really DOES love you! So don't let the nattering nabobs of negativity ruin your day. Love God - love your partner - serve Jesus together as a team. Live in the awesome grace of our loving Lord Jesus.
May 18, 2014
 Confused about liking a girl - what do I do?
by: Lisa

There is this one girl who makes me absolutely crazy. I really think I love her. But I'm so afraid. I don't want to go to hell. I have always been taught, all my life, that people who are bi, gay, and lesbian would go to hell. Always. And now that I feel like this- I don't know what to do. My parents will hate me. My friends will hate me. But she makes me so happy. I'm miserable trying to figure this out, it's confusing me and consuming my life. What do I do?

Rick's comment: Hi Lisa - Thanks for the good question. First thing to do is: Make sure you are saved.

Second, once you know you are saved, it helps to understand what happens when you get saved.

Third, once you understand what happened when you got saved, it helps to understand how long you are saved for. Is your salvation temporary or eternal?

Fourth, my Gay Christian FAQ answers lots of questions about gay relationships and is it okay to be gay.
Jun 29, 2014
 It's easy to judge
by: Hope

I think its easy for people to judge others, but they dont understand that when they do this they judge themselves too. Jesus paid the price for all of our sins. He gave up his life for us so that we could ALL be saved not just the people who go to church or judge others. According to the Bible we are all sinners incapable of saving ourselves from the punishment for sin which is death / eternity in hell.

I c a lot of people hating gay people n judging them. But the Bible tells us that only god has the right to judge us. God who sees the intentions and motives in every persons heart, not just their sexuality or religion.

A lot of people are completely missing god's message of love when they set out to judge others regardless of what they are judging them for. We dont have to be perfect or meet a list of expectations to have gods love. It is a free gift that we have only to accept and be saved.

Im a lesbian. It took me a long time to accept that. I grew up in a conservative home. I tried to do what i thought was right. What i was told was right. I tried dating guys. It didn't go any where. It was like i was a robot going through the motions to make everyone else happy. A prisoner in my own skin. I was afraid that if i told my parents, family, or friends theyd all hate me and disown me. For a while i felt like god hated me because no matter how hard i prayed for him to change the way i felt in my heart nothing changed. I was still attracted to women.

I hated myself bc my religion had taught me that gays were an abomination. And even though i was a christian and believed in god i was convinced that god and everyone else hated me, so i kept thinking about killing myself. But i didnt bc i believe suicide is an unforgivable sin in the sight of the lord.

So here i am and probably other people too. We believe in god. We believe jesus is our savior. We discover we are gay/lesbian. We hide it because we r terrified of the people around us finding out and judging / hating us. We either coninue to hide it out of fear or work up the courage to tell someone we trust and pray that their reaction wont be disgust & rejection. But sum of us would rather die than go on living the rest of our lives in this hell.

When people try to shove their religion down our throats or force us to repent for being gay it has the opposite effect. It drives us away from god. Because their actions are driven by hate and not love. God is love. And jesus tells us what love is in 1 corinthians 13:4-7. It starts like this - love is patient, love is KIND. Its not kind to force someone to do something because u think its right and they are wrong.

So n e ways, i dont hate the people who hate me. I pray for them because i know they dont know what they're doing, just like jesus did when the jews were crucifying him. If ur gay/lesbian hang in there bc it will get better. Sometimes it has to get worst before it can get better. Like a rainstorm before a rainbow.
Aug 31, 2014
 It hurts
by: Lashae B.

I am a woman who is completely in love with another woman. I have never been so happy in my entire life. She loves, supports, encourages, and cares for me in ways I've only dreamed of. She is open and confident in her sexuality me on the other hand I was raised to believe it as a one way ticket to hell to love another female. I struggle with this everyday. My family who doesn't know of our relationship is completely against it and will not accept it under any circumstances nor will my friends.

I'm so afraid God will send me to hell as they say, so afraid of losing my family and friends and being judged, and I'm also afraid to lose the only true and real love I've ever known. I keep looking for answers, reading the bible but I am sp confused. I don't want to misinterpret the bible and think what I'm doing is right if I will go to hell,nor do I want to let go of my love if the Lord won't send me to hell as I've been taught. It just hurts.

Rick's comment: Hi Lashae - There is help for your hurt in Jesus. First thing to do is: Make sure you are saved.

Second, once you know for sure you are saved, it helps to understand what happens when you get saved.

Third, once you understand what happened when you got saved, it helps to understand how long you are saved for. Is your salvation temporary or eternal?

Fourth, my Gay Christian FAQ answers lots of questions about gay relationships and is it okay to be gay. God has something He has already planned for your life, Ephesians 2:10. You can trust Him to work out His plan in your life as you walk with Him. My website also has lots of helpful FREE Bible studies so you can grow in the Lord.
Sep 03, 2014
 Hope and Question
by: LaShae B

Rick thank you so much for you response. It really touched me and have me hope. Can I please ask you 2 other questions that have been brewing on my heart. My first question is I've always been attracted to women in a way but men as well. My partner is only attracted to women, I fell in love with her not because she's a woman but because if who she is, so do you believe God would view that as "Making a choice" not technically only being attracted to my same gender but both, in other words am I wrong for choosing a woman not a man.

My second question is we are both growing in the Lord and being saved sex outside of marriage is a sin, we all know this. We won't to be married once we are will this be a blessed union or will we still be sinning if we have relations. I'm ready to give my life to God and be free from worry and thanks for your help, so much. Thank God for you and your site.

Rick's comment: Hi LaShae - It sounds like you may be bisexual. I have several info pages for bisexuals on my Gay Christian FAQ page and there are answers about sexual issues for folks in same sex relationships on my Gay Christian FAQ. Hope this is helpful.
Feb 11, 2015
 Punishment
by: Brianna Hartley

Will I get punished by god for being lesbian or in a gay realationship?

Rick's comment: Hi Brianna - No, God doesn't punish you for being lesbian or for being in a gay relationship. Jesus showed us the incredible love of God for all when He took our place and died for our sins so that we can be saved. Please click on the Link to make sure you are saved by grace alone through faith alone in the Lord Jesus Christ alone.

Please read my Gay Christian FAQ for answers to questions people ask about being lesbian or gay and Christian.
Jul 15, 2015
 Thanks
by: Savannah

I really needed to hear this I have been bashing my self about having a crush on a girl all day 💙
Oct 07, 2015
 Let me be as clear about this as the word of God has already been
by: Boris Volansky

I'm so tired of people taking God's truth, His word, and making it into their own righteousness. Satan works directly through those people. So let me be as clear as 1 Corinthians 6:9-11. It says:

"NO homosexual shall entire the kingdom of heaven."

There is no such thing as taking out of context, or politically correct. IT'S TRUTH. take that as it's written or be ignorant and fall for Satan's lies that gays have a chance to enter heaven. Now Jesus does love us all. And He will forgive ONLY if you turn from that sin which you love. In this case homosexuality. That simple.

Rick's comment: Hi Boris - Your funny comments made my day!

1. Paul didn't put the word, homosexual, in 1 Cor 6:9 in ANY language. There are many words Paul could have used if he wanted us to understand he was condemning gays.

2. That you believe "there is no such thing as taking out of context" indicates you are a young Christian who doesn't know much about the Bible.

3. Where in the Bible does it say, "He will forgive ONLY if you turn from that sin which you love?"

Boris, I encourage you to begin serious Bible study to learn the word of God. Otherwise, it is better to remain silent and make no comment on issues about which you have no knowledge.
Jan 07, 2016
 ancient translation
by: april

I am amazed at some of the comments that have been made by some of the on the subject of the Bible and Homosexuality but no one has mentioned that homosexual was not a word in the HEBREW language. I guess there was interpretation problem?!

Rick's comment: Hi April - Good point and one I make many times on this website. In fact, I made the same point in my Oct 07, 2015 answer to Boris about the Greek language, just before your comment.
Jan 10, 2016
 i am bisexual
by: lilly

I say that God loves all his children no matter what he knew already how the way you are he knows because he made you he knows what your going through and how you are it's not new to him of the way you are God just wants you to be happy if your not happy and have people change you then your going to live miserable and live your life how other people want you to live your live I say do what you want and live your live and God will know what to do in the end leave that to you and God he is the only one that judges and will decide what he will do and yes this is what I think and it's my opinion.

Rick's comment: Hi Lilly - God does love ALL of us and He made a way for us to be right with Him by Himself suffering the punishment for our sins on Calvary's Cross. This Good Person page explains all about it.
Mar 02, 2016
 No heaven for gays
by: M

Gay people will not b in heaven unless u change your wicked ways. God already said in the Bible it is an abomination.

Rick's comment: LOL - Hi M - Thanks for sharing your ignorance. Smart move using only the initial M. I wouldn't want to associate my name with that kind of bigotry either.
May 27, 2016
 Wow
by: Sully

It's very interesting that literally copied and pasted how to be saved straight from "The Way of the Master but yet you don't repent of homosexuality which by the way IS sexual SIN.

Rick's comment: Hi Sully - For about three years, I had permission from Ray Comfort to feature the Good Person tract on my website. I wrote to Ray and requested permission and Ray gave me permission to post the tract on my website, via Julie, his executive assistant, who answered my email request and relayed Ray's permission.

At the bottom of the page on which the tract appeared, was a note that it was posted with kind permission of LivingWaters.com and pointing out that we do not agree on everything but that we agree that soul-winning is wise. In the several years the Good Person tract was on my website, I had a dozen people or more write to let me know they got saved.

I should also point out that in my request for permission to post Ray's tract on my website, I included a link to my website so that it was clear from the beginning that my website takes a different view on gays than Living Waters. The point is that I did not post the tract on my own, simply disregarding Living Waters' rights.

I requested and received permission from Ray to post it on my website. Julie relayed Ray's okay, granting permission and also pointing out that her brother is gay, that she and Ray and others from Living Waters have witnessed to him and asking me to pray for his salvation.

You may not be aware of it but there are a number of gay and lesbian Christians who have taken Ray and Kirk's Evangelism course, who use Living Waters and similar tracts and who witness and win souls on a regular basis.

In April, 2012, Allen Atzbi, who works for Ray Comfort, rescinded permission for me to feature Ray's tract on my website. After ascertaining that Ray supported Allen in his request, I removed the Good Person tract from my website.

In its place, I wrote a witnessing script using the Ten Commandments and adding in lots of Bible verses which are not normally used in Ray's presentation.

So to be accurate, I did not literally copy Ray's words although I did use a similar approach.

I hope this explains it to your satisfaction.
Jul 20, 2016
 Then why in the OT was being gay punishable by death?
by: M

Ok then why in the old testament was being gay punishable by death?

Rick's comment: Hi M - There is no chapter in the Old Testament where being gay is punishable by death. Every passage cited to support that view is ripped out of its biblical cultural doctrinal historical linguistic and religious context, in order to teach that lie from hell.

On the NavBar of this website, click on any link under, What Does The Bible Say, and start reading. God bless as you read and study His infallible word, 2 Timothy 2:15.
Dec 01, 2016
 Highly at The verge of losing my mind
by: Yvonne

Im Lesbian but I truly love God and would really want to be saved but I have my other christian friends who keep preaching to me about the verse that talks about homosexuals not going to heaven and also the destruction of Sodom n Gomorrah, It leaves me devastated.

Rick's comment: Hi Yvonne - God has a good reason for bringing you to my website. He wants you to KNOW you CAN get saved. Jesus died for you and He WILL save you.

God has good news and peace of mind for us when we believe what He says in the Bible. The most important question to answer right now is:

Am I sure I am saved?

Many gays are cultural Christians instead of born again Christians. They grew up in church or they are religious or they are spiritual. They try to do the right thing but they've never personally received Jesus Christ as their Savior from sin.

Why do so many young people quit church?

The best preparation for being a disciple of Jesus is to know for sure you are saved. Everyone needs to be saved from sin and hell and the wrath of God. Here is what Jesus taught about hell and God's wrath.

Jesus teaches Hell 101

What is the wrath of God?

Getting saved and becoming a disciple of Jesus means not trusting your good works, confirmation, baptism, sacraments, being a cultural Christian or grace allegedly infused through a church, instead, trusting by grace alone through faith alone in the Lord Jesus Christ alone to save you.

What must I do to be saved?

Once you know for sure you are saved, it helps to understand what happened when you got saved.

What happens when you get saved?

Once you understand what happened when you got saved, it helps to understand how long you are saved for. Is your salvation temporary or eternal?

Am I saved for all eternity?

About the questions you have:

Can homosexuals go to heaven? Yes, absolutely - if you receive the Lord Jesus Christ as your Savior, you will go to heaven.

Are lesbians treated the same as gays in the Bible?

Did God destroy Sodom and Gomorrah because of homosexuality? No, absolutely not.

The Sodom story is NOT about homosexuality.
Feb 12, 2017
 Gay are artificalb
by: Kasperinblack

God distroyed Soliman because of the same sex actuvitues.....God never had any gay
Angels or transgenders Angels nor did Jesus prophets were gay or transgenders..Yes you will not be accepted in the book of life.thats why only area will be saved stated in the bible

Rick's comment: Hi Kasperinblack - In the future, thanks for NOT posting on my website while you are drunk or high. You only make yourself look bad.
Apr 22, 2017
 Lesbian
by: Amy

I am confused because I'm hearing that i will go to hell and that im not going to hell. I'm just confused and i really need to know if i will go to hell for being a lesbian. I believe in God and Jesus more than anything. And i listen to Christian songs all the time. I just don't know if going to hell is true for being a lesbian or not. I really need help cuz i love god and jesus and i cry because of not knowing i will go to heaven for being a lesbian.

Rick's comment: Hi Amy - This is Pastor Rick - The information you seek is in the article AND the links in the article. Please reread it and click on and read all of the links.

Also, you will find helpful information in these comments and in my answers to the comments. Please click on the links.

This link explains exactly how to get saved so you know for sure you are going to heaven.

What must I do to be saved?
May 22, 2017
 Thank you
by: Grace Cope

God doesn't hate you. People do. And you should treat people the way they should be treated. My body is a temple.
May 27, 2017
 Food for Thought
by: Roger

I have never had any desire to be with another man, but if I did, I wouldn't want to take the Risk! Two men or two women together can not produce offspring. This is against Nature (and the Bible), therefore God's plan would not work. The human race would disappear - I will Pray for you.

Rick's comment: Hi Roger - Thanks for praying for us! May I offer you more food for thought? Gays and lesbians make up about 5% of the human population. Although they are no longer in heterosexual marriages, many gays and lesbians already have biological children. Many other gays and lesbians have already adopted children who are not gay.

95% of the human race will continue to marry and have children, therefore the human race is in no danger of dying out or disappearing.
Jun 01, 2017
 why lie
by: guliana

You kiss ass if they agree gay is good but say we are bigots if we point truth out. it says in old testament the man who lays with man will die and new testemant same with letters to romans. its OK mate believe as you will. wait and see. you can't get to heaven if you have a row with your wife and then don't forgive. See pastor Daniel hell. but I'm sure I'm a bigot and you will find this funny ha ha. God loves sinner not the sin sorry.

Rick's comment: Hi Guliana - Thanks for sharing that with us.
Sep 27, 2017
 confused
by: Anonymous

Hi my partner an i been together for 9 years now
we go to church on sundays together but she has committed herself to the church,two days ago she came to me and she told me that the Lord spoke to her and told her that our sex life is not healthy but she does not want to leave me she wants to grow old together so were does that leave me .I am not allowed to touch her or kiss her what must i do she reads a lot of Joseph Prince books.

Rick's comment: Hi Anonymous - I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. There is no verse in the Bible which condemns lesbians or lesbian relationships. So, it would do your partner good to read less of Joseph Prince and more of the Bible.

The general rule for sex in a marriage is found in 1 Cor 7:1-9. Partners are supposed to meet each other's needs sexually because: 1. That is God's plan. 2. That avoids the emotional and spiritual chaos of having sex with people who don't love you and are not in committed relationship with you. 3. That's what people who love each other do - meet each other's needs.

You go to church together so I'm assuming both of you are saved and love Jesus and are focused on being serious Christians. If you go to church but are not saved, I encourage you to get saved. It will be the best thing you've ever done.

What must I do to be saved?

In the Old Testament, polygamy was culturally accepted, was legal and was practiced by people who wrote the Bible and loved and served God.

In modern times, polygamy is the analogy for gay marriage. Today gay marriage is culturally accepted, is legal in many parts of the world and is practiced by many gays and lesbians who love and serve God.

Since you've been together nine years, I hope both of you will get counseling, hopefully not from the church you go to but from someone independent. You have a long term relationship on which to build and I think you should work hard to work things out.

If your lives were not lived for God, then you both have the power to change that. If you have alcohol or drug habits or bar habits or other habits you need to change, then do that. God will give you power to do that.

But you don't have to break up and you don't have to abstain from sex with each other to serve Jesus. You can love Jesus and each other too. You can live as wife and wife and not feel condemned by God. This website has LOTS of information about that. God bless you both!
Oct 05, 2017
 confused, torn apart, frustrated
by: leb

i am a lesbian,my partner goes to her churvh and she told me she has visions and recently the prophet told her that she cant see/dream anymore because of she is in a relationship with lesbian. she went further to consult at her church and the prophet told her that her ways of living are now faced to the darkness, and GOD is jealous of the gift that He gave her because each time when GOD is looking for her and want to use her He cant find her clean because of she is in a relationship with a woman,

my partner was given a massage that God says she need to chose either being with me or Church so that she can be able to do the work of GOD each time when God need her,..

My partner is so confused and distressed because she loves Us, she indicated her happiness that she has never received or felt before since we have been together.

am also confused and stressed cos i love her so much , i even question the Love of God to us as his children that are we that sinfull to a point were he see that we dont deserve to be happy in our lives?..what should be done in this case?why is it that she cant see her visions if she is in a relationship with lesbian,

This is so sad to also feel discriminated by GOD as it has been brought to us, i do not know what to do to save our relationship and also to help her with her belief as far as her visions are concerned. i am prepared to take evry journey with her and support her as my partner and again i do not want to be the reason why she cant work for GOD.

We love each other so bad, we are a happy together and it so sad that we are breaking up not because we dont love each other or no longer care about each other but because GOD says we must separate as we are in the darkness.

Rick's comment: Hi leb - Thanks for writing to me. Part of the problem, it seems to me, is that your girlfriend is listening to people tell her what the Bible means instead of reading the Bible to find out what it says for herself.

This website has LOTS of good information about the clobber passages. The Bible is not anti-gay.

You and your girlfriend should be reading and studying the Bible together and praying out loud together and going witnessing for Jesus together. Being partners should mean being partners in everything including living for and serving Jesus together.

Most Christians these days are focused on feelings and emotions and fake spiritual gifts instead of reading, studying and learning the Bible and being soul-winning witnesses for Jesus.

Being a Christian isn't about waving your hands in the air at church, putting on a show, talking in tongues, getting words of knowledge or prophesy. That is mostly fake showboat churchianity and is a playground for Satan.

Real Christianity is about loving Jesus and loving people and caring enough about unsaved folks that you're willing to tell them about Jesus and the gospel.

God isn't in the fake prophet business - God is in the getting people saved business.

Get yourself a good King James Study Bible like the Holman King James Study Bible and start reading it every day. Teach yourself the Bible. I offer hundreds of FREE Bible studies on the Home Page of this website to help you learn the Bible.

Only YOU can help yourself grow spiritually. It is YOUR responsibility, not your pastor's, not your girlfriend's.

God bless as you make sure you are really saved by reading this page I'll link to and doing what it says. Then, do what the rest of this answer says and start serving Jesus with your joyful life, with your time, with your mind, with your enthusiasm and with your girlfriend.

What must I do to be saved?
Nov 01, 2017
 I believe in God and am a lesbian
by: Tanya

Hi I'm a lesbian and I believe in God, Jesus Christ, so please say I go heaven.

Rick's comment: Hi Tanya - Jesus loves you and died on the cross to save you from your sins. On the third day Jesus rose from the dead so you would know that God accepted the payment Jesus made for your sins.

Now, if you want to be saved, you must believe that Jesus resurrected from the dead after paying for your sins, accept that Jesus paid for your sins and just ask Him to save you and make you into the woman of God He wants you to be.

That does NOT mean changing your sexual orientation. It means that God wants you to love and serve Him as a born again and saved lesbian.

This explains it and provides links to more information too.

What must I do to be saved?
Dec 20, 2017
 I'm feeling guilty
by: Anon

So I recently started dating someone of the same gender but I keep feeling the guilt of what I am doing is wrong.


Rick's comment: Hi Anon - It is important to know for sure that you are saved and your sins are forgiven.

Trusting the Lord Jesus Christ as your Savior from sin, hell and the wrath of God is the most important decision you will ever make. Here's how to know for sure you are saved.

What must I do to be saved?
Apr 07, 2018
 Frustration
by: Sky

Hello, I am glad that I stumbled on this website when I did. My belief for the most part has always been to trust in God and the path that he has made for me. My prayers are always answered and once I stopped worrying about Hell my life got so much happier and easier.

However, I have found that I have truly fallen in love with a women. She loves me too, I know she does, however, she continuously tries to hold herself back from what she wants. She bases all of her actions and choices off the Bible and does not allow herself any free reign. She is stressed, terrified of hell, and what others would think if she were a lesbian. I did not grow up in a God-fearing Christian family, but she did. I cannot help but think what would happen if she grew up in a family like mine. Whom is Christian but will continue to support you even if you were lesbian. Her family claimed they would not support her if she were to be a homosexual.

We are not in a relationship and I have tried to move on, but she simply does not know what she wants. She had admitted to me she will always say no because of her fear of Hell, but her actions imply she is in love with me and cannot let me go.

One day she is doing things that will make me love her and are things that would indicate in public we are more than friends, but then the next day she does not. It is very frustrating and if we were in a relationship, it would probably be considered unhealthy. I am unsure of what I want too, do I want her to stop and move on? Or should I continue to have hope that it will work out but continuously get hurt? Or maybe I should try to reach out to her and help her live a life worth living instead of living in fear.

I just commented to share though any advice would be appreciated. Either way, I am glad I stumbled on this website.
Jun 15, 2018
 Im confused bucz
by: Kayla

Ok so im confused i grew up with Christian FAMILY and my mom and stepdad told me its a sin soo i dated boys but i really wanna know if im going to haven and will i be good i want a honest truth bucz i feel like i won't bucz it said in the bible god created man and woman so i gotta know

Rick's comment: Hi Kayla - Jesus died on the cross to save you from your sins, to give you eternal life and to let you know that you are going to heaven, if you receive Him as your Savior. That's what this link is about.

What must I do to be saved?

This website helps you understand that God doesn't save you from your sexual orientation, He saves you from your sins. I hope you'll explore and read this website so you'll get that understanding.

Many thanks for stopping by.
Nov 21, 2018
 I'm very confused
by: Nick

Hello I would like to ask something because I am deeply confused. I am young and I'm aware that I don't know much at 16 years old but as a guy I have same sex attraction. I want to build a life when I get older but I'm very confused.

Rick's comment: Hi Nick - Thanks for the good questions. Sixteen is a good age to be wrestling with questions like this. The first thing to make sure of is correctly answering this question.

Am I sure I am saved?

What must I do to be saved?

After you've got that settled, the other answers come a little easier.

If being gay was okay why did God bash it so many times in the Bible and if that's not what he meant what did he mean?

Rick's comment: The truth is, in the Bible, God never bashes being gay.

Some of the new Bible versions have inserted the word, homosexual, into the Bible but they are wrong to do that.

The human authors of the Bible never used a word in Hebrew, Aramaic or Greek, which means homosexual.

My website has lots of helpful information on that. You can start by exploring the NavBar or go to my Gay Christian FAQ.

It makes me sad because I want to grow old with someone but I feel like I would do the Lord wrong. I'm deeply confused and trying to find myself but the more I think the more my confusion gets to me.

Rick's comment: Think of it this way. You've got a head start on finding truth because you're actively searching for it now, while you're still young.

God will bless you and show you His truth because your heart wants truth and you are willing to obey God's truth.

What must I do to be saved?
Apr 03, 2019
 This man is dragging u to hell
by: Gillyiana

This man is dragging u to hell.ge misinterprets scripture moans about homophobia and bigotry.jesus loves sinners not sin.this man is a massive liar.u do feel sorry for you guys as Lucifer is a bastard to fight.either he cherry picks scripture or he is an agent of Lucifer or deluded.carry on as u will just recall ignore this pillock God bless him and if he's right lovely if he's wrong.rick please wake up mate.i got loads gay mates I don't hate them but no sinners makes heaven. Bitterness will stop u .but I feel yr blind deaf in sin x.

Rick's comment: Hi Gillyiana - In the future, please wait until you are sober, to make a comment on this website. Many thanks!

What must I do to be saved?
Jun 27, 2021
 I'm bisexual. Am i going to hell?
by: Ray Reuben

hello , my name is Ray . im 16 -boy and im bisexual . my parents keep telling me that i go to hell for being bi. i just don't think so . God says he loves us
i need help. i trully go to hell for this?

Rick's comment: Hi Ray- Thanks for the question.

No one goes to hell for being bisexual. People go to hell because they've never believed on the risen Lord Jesus Christ as their Savior from sin, hell and the wrath of God.

The first thing to make sure of is correctly answering this question.

Am I sure I am saved?

What must I do to be saved?

After you've believed on the risen Christ as your Savior, the other answers will come a little easier.

My website has lots of helpful answers to questions like yours. You can start by exploring the NavBar or go to my

Gay Christian FAQ.

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