If you're a gay Christian, does God still love you?

by Javon
(Hartford, CT)



"The love of God is wider
than the measure of our mind;
And the heart of the Eternal
is most wonderfully kind."



Yes, God absolutely positively DOES love gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Christians. And in case anyone is wondering, God has already demonstrated His love for gays and lesbians, transsexuals and bisexuals who are not saved yet, by becoming your Substitute, taking your place on the Cross, suffering the wrath of God to pay for your sins with His blood.

Just so there's no misunderstanding, God loves gay men in committed same sex partnerships and God loves lesbian women in committed same sex partnerships too. In plainer words, God doesn't stop loving you when you're partnered or gay married, if that's legal where you live. The evidence for God's love is clear, persuasive and unequivocal.

Are you a sinner?
If you are
God loves you!

"But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. " -Romans 5:8

"We love him (God), because he first loved us." -1 John 4:19

God: "He is the healer of the brokenhearted. He is the one who bandages their wounds." -Psalm 147:3, God's Word Translation

  1. God's love is relentless.

  2. God's love is bigger than your problems.

  3. God's love is bigger than your diagnosis.

  4. God's love is bigger than your depression.

  5. God's love is bigger than your lust.

  6. God's love is bigger than your fears.

  7. God's love is bigger than your debts.

  8. God's love is bigger than your anger.

  9. God's love is bigger than your enemies.

  10. God's love is bigger than your mistakes.

  11. God's love is bigger than your failures.

  12. God's love is bigger than your atheism.

  13. God's love is bigger than your agnosticism.

  14. God's love is bigger than your religious piety.

  15. God's love is bigger than your self-righteousness.

  16. God's love is bigger than your sexual orientation.

  17. God's love is bigger than your questions.

  18. God's love is bigger than your broken heart.

How to find God's Love


God seeks you when you think He's probably given up on you. God seeks you where you thought He'd never look for you.

Here's the key to finding God's love. God chose to make His love available through the Lord Jesus Christ. And God revealed His plan in the Bible. Here's what the Bible says about Jesus as the way to God.
"Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me." -John 14:6

The Name of Jesus: "Neither is there salvation in any other: for there is none other name under heaven given among men, whereby we must be saved. " -Acts 4:12

Yes indeed,
God DOES love you!


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Mar 11, 2010
 Thank you!
by: RC

Rick!!! Thank you sooooo much for your words of encouragement and wisdom daily! You are such an inspiration and gift to so many!

Your book, GayChristian101, is blessing me and everyone around me tremendously! Thank you for being so thorough and honest!
Mar 19, 2010
 I'm pleased to know my book is helpful to you!
by: Rick Brentlinger

Thanks RC! It encourages my heart to know that the book I wrote is helping people understand God's loving kindness toward gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgendered people.

I'd love to hear more about what God is doing in your life and in the lives of those around you.
Nov 29, 2011
 Thank you for the reminder!
by: Chuck

Thank you so much for putting the above article into words I can read. I am a gay Christian who is bi-polar. I struggle many days to find the will to keep going. I battle demons who play upon my lustful thoughts and many other issues. It is so good to see it written on a page that God is greater than any problem I may endure in this life. It brought tears to my eyes to read these things.

My partner and I recently adopted two precious twin boys and I need strength every day to be the best Christian father I can be. Thank you for your amazing book that helps me fight the demons of doubt. May God bless you and your work!
Feb 15, 2012
 I've been taught that God hates homosexuality
by: Anonymous

What about Romans 1:26-27 which condemns homosexuality. God does love homosexuals but totally hates their sin (at least that's what I've been taught).

Rick's comment: Thanks for asking that question. Here are my Bible based answers.

1. What is Biblical repentance?

2. What about Romans 1:26-27?

3. Do I need to trust Jesus and get saved?

4. Once Jesus saves me, will I have eternal security?
Nov 24, 2012
 really struggling
by: Shane

Rick, I am an FtM transperson and I've known about your site for several months now, leaving comments here and there under a couple of different names. I want to say thank you for keeping this up here because it's helped me in so many ways and I'm thankful I'm not the only one out there who loves God and the Bible and accepts LGBTs

That said though, I'm having an extremely difficult time at home. I'm 17 and I'll be moving out of the house in about 8 months, but my parents and I are having a rough time getting along (especially my dad).

I've fully explained to him how I feel and everything but he remains very cold toward the idea of transgenderism. I've told him I sometimes get panic attacks and extremely depressive moments due to dysphoria, but he always manages to turn it around and say that if I'm not happy I must not be close enough to God

I'm in a sort of desperate situation right now because I'm extremely depressed. I went to the doctor recently where I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. my parents tell me it's the enemy trying to "steal my joy" by convincing me to think in a "wrong way" even though I know it's not a sin for me to be who I am. However I don't know how to experience the "peace that passes all understanding" while suffering from depression

Can you please help me? I don't know what I'm supposed to do.
Nov 28, 2012
 There is help and hope in Jesus
by: Rick Brentlinger

Hi Shane- I'm sorry life is so difficult for you right now. I know how difficult it can be to struggle with depression and other problems in life on top of that. I am not a trained counselor so all I can do is encourage you to seek help where you live and keep trusting the Lord.

As you walk through the FtM process, it helps to keep in mind just how much God loves you. If you've trusted Jesus as your Savior from sin, then you have the indwelling Christ and the Holy Spirit to help you through every problem you face.

Your parents are struggling to come to terms with a situation they did not cause and cannot change. Part of their reaction to you springs from frustration because they do not understand and cannot do much to help you become the daughter they are now losing.

Education is vitally important here. All of you need to work through this together if they're willing to do that, so that everyone understands what it means to be a FtM transperson.

If your parents are unwilling to get counseling with you, then you need to seek counseling on your own.

There are no quick and easy answers for depression. Those who have not struggled with depression tend to give advice like, Snap out of it. But people cannot snap out of depression. That kind of advice is as silly as telling someone with a broken leg to, Snap out of it, and expecting their leg to immediately be healed. Life just does not work that way.

I will tell you this. There is hope and joy and peace for you as you believe God and walk with Him through this difficult time. He will never leave you nor forsake you.
Dec 19, 2012
 you can not be christian and be gay
by: tim maples

for those who teach that because you are partnered or married to the same sex is ok with god it is NOT. God say it is sin.god loves gays an lesbians he just doesn't like sin. there are no gray areas with god its either yea or nay right or wrong.they will be no gays or lesbians in heaven only former gays an lesbians who have repented (which means to turn away) from there sins.

read lev.chap. 20 vs.13 rom chap.1 vrs. 25-27 .
rom.chap 1 vs. 26 for this cause God gave them up unto vile affections; for even their women did change the natural use into that which was againt nature.1 corth. chap 6 vrs, 9-10.

Rick's comment: Hey Tim, on the NavBar under, What The Bible Says, will you take the time to read about the verses which you allege, condemn gays and lesbians? It always helps to know what you're talking about BEFORE you make inaccurate public statements with your name attached. Many thanks.
Dec 26, 2012
 My sin?
by: Anonymous

Sin? What sin? I was born and as I grew up I realized I had absolutely no sexual attraction to women, only to men. I didn't ask for that nor did I choose it. I beg and prayed for God to make me straight. But I am how I was made. Does experiencing true love make me a sinner? I believe God does love me, I also believe I am not sinning.

Rick's comment: I agree with you that it is not a sin to be gay. It is not a sin to be in a gay relationship. It is not a sin to have sex in a committed gay relationship.

The Bible tells us: "For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God." Romans 3:23. So apart from being gay, we are all sinners and we all need a Savior.

But the story does not end there. God made a way for every sinner to have their sins forgiven and be right with God. Forgiveness is possible because Jesus took our place. Jesus was our Substitute. On the Cross, Jesus took all God's wrath against our sins and paid the penalty for sin with His life's blood.

Then on the third day, Jesus arose from the dead, PROVING that God the Father had accepted His payment for our sins. Now, if you want to be saved, all you have to do is accept the payment Jesus made for your sins. God is already satisfied with the payment Jesus made for your sins. Will you be satisfied with Jesus' payment? Will you trust Jesus and get saved today?
Dec 30, 2012
 gays don't understand repentance
by: Anonymous

hi look its good your teaching and yes god is love but you dont understand the repentance part... when a gay person belive and repents he must stop this filty act and change, he has to really want god and love god to change as god made adam and eve not adam and steve and yes we are all sinners but thats why god died for us that when he calls us he calls us to repentence just like he told protitutes not to sin no moreeeeeeeee amen

Rick's comment: You poor thing. I edited out most of your strange comment. I hope you get right with God soon and begin obeying 2 Timothy 2:15.

Always interpreting scripture in context will radically change your life for the better. Let's make 2013 the year you start studying the Bible in context.
Jan 27, 2013
 Anxious
by: Anonymousc

I have recently had depression and anxiety. It makes anxious about my own thoughts a lot and if I am worthy of God. I thank him and ask him for help. I just feel like the depression gets in the way of any God and good feeling. I try to live by treating others how I wish to be treated and keep on keeping on. Otherwise I find it all difficult to understand.

I also think I might be bisexual, so this does add to my issues.

Rick's comment: Depression is often caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. Many of the psychotropic drugs prescribed to treat depression end up making it worse. There are no easy answers.

I encourage you to seek treatment from a professional in your area. It is also important to do a lot of reading and study on your own so that you learn about depression and treatments for depression. You must be your own advocate to help insure that the treatment you receive is helping you.
Jan 28, 2013
 blind will lead the blind
by: Anonymous

yes well of course rick you would cut some of my comments as disobedient children don't want to here gods truth, and because you know I spoke the truth you don't want others to see as you only want to hear sweets words , repent from this act and come to god all fornicaters homosexuals will not enter his kingdom , its in the bible read it don't read your own bible that you have made up in your mind read gods word and if you want to cut out this message do it no problem you don't want help that's your problem , then also delet me from this website , as paul said don't be company with fornicater remove that wicked one from you amen , the blind will lead the blind and both will fall into the ditch but theirs no point righting to you anymore as you don't like to here the truth you just want me to say oh its ok god is love he don't mind we all will go to heaven no problem lets all sin , come on rick wake up stop living the lusts of this world

Rick's comment: What is it with you moral cowards and mental midgets that you think you have the right to leave Anonymous spiteful comments and false teaching on this website? Put your real name with your views and I may let some of your goofy comments post. Why do you lack the courage to put your name with your vitriol?
Jan 30, 2013
 just trying to help
by: Anonymous

rick my name is nora mohsen im not scared to say who i am , i have nothing against you but as christians we are to help eachother , to build eachother in the faith because i care for your soul as i should love my neighbur , and because your not sure of gods teaching it is worrying as you are teaching others that it is ok to do these acts, whats the piont of repenting if you dont have to repent , i dont think you know what repentence means...

yes rick now i know alot of people say but we are all sinners , we have all done wrong and yes there right, but thats why when we get called we repent of those sins that we did , or past, sins to wipe them away , become a new person, and as you know god said nothing that defiles will enter his kingdom, no fornicaters liars murderous so on, you see how apostle paul was a murderer look how god had changed him, from murderer to saint , he glorified god through him as he changed even the jews were wondering this man was a murder you see how they were suprised by how he changed, so as i said i have nothing against you but as a christian we should help eachother to build eachother up in the faith , as jesus said he is coming for a holy people, so you have to try stop, like we all had to repent , pray to god but dont just pray fast everyday fast and pray and cry out to him, he will help you he helped me overcome sins by praying with a true heart, yes he loves you but he wants you to repent dident he say repent and beleive in the gospel , his gospel tell sus no fornicaters will enter his kingdom he is giving you time to repent ,you have to truly want to please god before your self put him first your self second ,

Rick's comment: Hi Nora, thanks for commenting. I do provide a long and detailed Biblical definition of repentance on this website.

I encourage you to continue reading and studying your Bible. I do not advocate that anyone anywhere live in sin or live a sinful life. I encourage every born again believer in Jesus Christ to live a clean holy life.
Feb 21, 2013
 My life jesus
by: ....

I love my God Jesus. He is my life. I am for him. He is the only true God among all religions. I love my Father Jesus Lord - amen!
Mar 15, 2013
 we are all sinners
by: Anonymous

Time and time again the church say being gay is wrong. What about slander gossipping being angry unforgiveness? Gods speaks to all humanity, not just the gay community. We are all sinners.

Rick's comment: Amen! And Jesus is the ONLY answer for any sinner. God saves sinners by grace alone through faith alone in the Lord Jesus Christ alone - No works, no religion, no water baptism, no sacraments involved.

Do you know for sure you are saved?
Apr 05, 2013
 Is homosexuality really a sin?
by: Anonymous

We were having a deep discussion today in family life class if being homosexual is a sin. I think that it is alright to have feelings for people of the same sex but as long as you don't act on it, homosexuality is not a sin.

But I am still very confused and was wondering if anyone could help me with this. Besides, would God rather have now a days homosexuals who LOVE each other rather than heterosexuals who HATE each other?

Rick's comment: It is okay to be gay and it is okay to be in a committed gay relationship or a gay marriage. For more details, read our Gay Christian FAQ or just browse around this website. Many thanks for your comment.
Apr 09, 2013
 Hey Rick
by: Justin Armistead

Rick I am gay and I have been told that god does not love homosexuals at all. But I know god loves everybody, he states that in the bible. But I wanted to know will God allow me in Heaven with my sexuality as the way it is, I love being myself all the time. And I am the president of my school's anti-bullying club and I enjoy that. But I just wanted to know will God accept me in his house. I hope he does. I love everybody and I am a kind and gentle person to others and I love myself the way I am. Thank you Rick for your time man, Have a great day.

Rick's comment: Yes, there will be gays in heaven just as there will be heteros in heaven. But remember that heaven is for saved people. Are you sure you are saved? Getting saved is not about being good or religious or getting baptized or joining the church or doing your best.

Getting saved from sin and from hell is about trusting Jesus Christ instead of trusting our own goodness. Blessings to you Justin, as you walk the path of God's purpose for your life.
May 02, 2013
 Lesbian love
by: Anonymous

Hi Rick, I'm a woman who loves another woman. But the woman i love is marrying a man because that's what the bible says. Don't get me wrong, she does love me too. If she gets married,she'll be living a fake unhappy life. I don't know how to convince her or tell her it's okay to love same-sex because God loves all. Please help me! Thank you!

Rick's comment: I am so sorry to read this. I get emails from gays and lesbians who tried hetero marriage, thinking that would "cure" them of being gay or lesbian. It does not. It only creates unintended consequences to deal with for years down the road.

Arthur Schopenhaur wrote that "Obstinacy is the result of the will forcing itself into the place of the intellect." In their desire to live up to the expectations of others, some people, against all logic, by force of will determine to change their orientation. Those attempts do not work.

I wish I could be more helpful but in situations like this, all you can do is trust God and keep walking with Him in spite of what your beloved does. That is easy advice to give; difficult advice to follow. Yet at the end of the day, God is real, God is good and God is always right.

Bob Jones Sr. often told his students: "It's always safe to trust God -always!" It is not easy but it is always safe. So trust God and keep living for Him, is the best advice I can give you.
May 06, 2013
 No Christian will be a Gay
by: Anonymous

Acts 11:26 "And when he had found him, he brought him unto Antioch. And it came to pass, that a whole year they assembled themselves with the church, and taught much people. And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch."

Christians are those that are ready to follow after the footstep of our LORD Jesus by the power of Holy Spirit after repenting from their sinful ways. Homosexuality is a sin sinful act. You can be a Christians and still continue in the sin of Homosexuality -or any form of sin for that matter.

For in Christ, there is no sin.
1 John 1: 5 – 7
5 This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.
6 If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth:
7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.
1 John 3: 1 - 10
1 Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not.
2 Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know
3 And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.
4 Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law.
5 And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin.
6 Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him.
7 Little children, let no man deceive you: he that doeth righteousness is righteous, even as he is righteous.
8 He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.
9 Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.
10 In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loveth not his brother.
Lastly, if you want to continue sin, they forget being a Christian. However, if you are ready to repent, God is a loving father will accept any sinners that repent.
Romans 6:1-2
1 What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound?
2 God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein? Thanks.

Rick's comment: None of the scriptures you cited proves your assertion.
May 06, 2013
 No Christian will ever be a gay!!!
by: Olufemi

Who is a Christian? Acts 11:26 "And when he had found him, he brought him unto Antioch. And it came to pass, that a whole year they assembled themselves with the church, and taught much people. And the disciples were called Christians first in Antioch."

Christians are those that are ready to follow after the footstep of our LORD Jesus by the power of Holy Spirit after repenting from their sinful ways. Homosexuality is a sin sinful act. You can’t be a Christians and still continue in the sin of Homosexuality -or any form of sin for that matter.

Rick's comment: Okay, that settles the matter. No need to read any verses in context. No need for the anti-gay crowd to respond in any way to the arguments on this website. No need to think logically or rationally about these issues. No need to search the scriptures daily. Olufemi has spoken.
May 08, 2013
 all sin will burn
by: nora

what dose revelation 21;8 say rick? why dont you teach yourself that and teach others , what did god say? dont be confounded to the things of the world the lust of the FLESH the lust of the eyes for all who do this is enmity with god , repent god bless

Rick's comment: Nora, you've accused me of lying but you have not specified any lies. That is an odd way to approach things. Do you feel like you're being honest?
May 10, 2013
 Pls be careful
by: Freedom

I love how you guys have taken almost ever verse out of context which Is very dangerous. Gods love is immense far reaching and amazing. However his grace is not something to be taken for granted. God should firstly be feared and that fear then brings wisdom and then a healthy and scary love. This love for God should make us want to please him. And by the way guys once you have asked god into your heart it's all ok is rubbish. God has a plan for your life that he wants you to follow giving in to lust, anger, hate, unforgivness and every other sin will prevent the Holy Spirit raingning in our lives. God wants us to honour him with every fibre of our being he requires everything. Not just the bits we choose to give him. I have no idea how you are coming to the conclusions you are but I would encourage you. Please please Jesus could come back at any time if you were in front of him now would he be happy with how you explain his teachings. Would he be happy about how many people have read this and thought I am fine as long as I say sorry again and again. Would he be happy that he died gave up everything for people's lives only to have them get some of the blessings that he promises for a life that is directed by God. Take a look at Francis Chan everyone - Crazy Love I dare you.

Rick's comment: Your comments indicate you have not read this website with comprehension. Our views are clearly stated on this website.

Your assertion that we take almost every verse out of context indicates you are not very intelligent or that you are dishonest or that you are too focused on your anti-gay agenda to take time to tell the truth.
May 10, 2013
 carnal minded leads to death
by: nora

look rick , it looks like you have made up your own mind in life, you rather go with your own choices than god's, paul speaks a lot about not doing these things , when some one give's you a verses where this act if forbidding you straight away give them something else from the bible, to try and justify your act , i think you need to read those verses people are giving you , stop running away from them , read romans again and see what paul says, it is very clear that he said you are carnally minded , so listen to him , he knew what he was talking about, he said to be carnal minded is death , so for your own good and the good of others dont telling people its ok, because think of what you will do there souls, just keep your mouth shut until you truly understand god and his scripture's because he says it very clearly about these thing's , god bless ,

Rick's comment: I find your comments interesting because it is clear that you've never studied these issues. You have no idea of the context of the verses you use to criticize what you read on this website.

What a sad commentary on professing christians, that from the vantage point of having no idea what you're talking about, you attack and criticize those of us who know the Lord and who have studied these issues.

Your assignment this week, without any further delay, is to read, memorize and obey 2 Timothy 2:15. Do. it. now.
May 28, 2013
 Coming out to my family
by: Anonymous

Dear Rick, I am attending college and have recently started dating another man. I care for him greatly and I am very happy. My entire family is Roman Catholic and I don't know how to tell them. It's hard for me to be In a place where I don't feel welcome. Whether it be at home or in church with people who really don't understand the word and just go through the motions. I am afraid if I tell my parents they will stop helping with school and push me away. I Love my family and God so much but I just am tired of pretending to be something I am not no matter how much I pray God to change me. I hate that my roommates know me better than my family. Please help! :(

Rick's comment: It is important to know for sure that you are saved as you tackle these issues. Far too many people are cultural Christians instead of being born again Christians.

Coming out is something you do for yourself, not for your family. I encourage you to build friendships - be a friend to have a friend.

Pray about your situation every day and trust God to show you what to do and when to do it. Pray regularly with your boyfriend if he is open to that. God has blessing and joy and something significant for you to do in His service. He will make those plans clear as you walk with Him day by day.
Jun 05, 2013
 are gays ok?
by: Anonymous

Leviticus 18:22 - "You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; such a thing is an abomination."

Leviticus 20:13 - "If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them shall be put to death for their abominable deed; they have forfeited their lives."

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 - "Do you not know that the unjust will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be decieved; neither fornicators nor idolaters nor adulterers nor boy prostitutes nor practicing homosexuals nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God."

Okay, now even though it probably doesn't seem like it from what I just posted, I want to make it clear that I have absolutely no problem with homosexuals. I am just curious as to how this all makes sense. I have been looking around online at various different arguments about whether God does or does not accept homosexuals. I have looked at both sides of the argument too in a completely unbiased way. When I was looking at different views I noticed the above three quotes were often used (along with some others that I didn't have the time to type up).

To me, it kind of looks like the bible is directly stating that being a homosexual is bad, and it goes as far as to say it is an abomination and that they will be put to death for their sins. When I saw this, I thought there is no way that God could possibly accept homosexual people.

However, I don't feel like it is right that God wouldn't accept someone because of their sexual orientation. Can someone please try and disprove what I am thinking so I can trust and love in God again.

Sorry for any typos I may have; I typed this up in my phone.

Rick's comment: All of the scriptures you quoted are explained on this website. Please click on any NavBar buttons under, What The Bible Says. Many thanks for stopping by.
Jul 16, 2013
 Im going through similar things
by: Taylor

I would like to go off of Shane's comment if that's ok, but I just want to offer some encouragement. I've felt very similar things. A couple of years ago, I was diagnosed with depression and I've been battling it for a long time. My point is that I'm still going through it, but God has been showing me the right path and it was just up to me all along to trust him and take it.

I've had bad experiences with heterosexual relationships and I have had feelings for my best friend for a while now. Ive never told her because she has a boyfriend and I was scared of loosing her friendship. I haven't even hinted my feelings to my parents but they both know I'm whole-heartedly a Christian woman.

I had been feeling bad about myself until I came upon this site recently. I just have to say, thanks so much, Rick and I know its a little late, but hang in there and God will make a way.

Rick's comment: Thanks Taylor for your kind and encouraging words. Much appreciated! God knows our needs and He will do what is best for us.
Aug 01, 2013
 I still need help!
by: Anonymous

I am a gay person who is still struggling to believe the fact that God loves homosexuality. I have been taught that it is a sin and he will send me to hell for being gay. Then I got the idea that Christianity is sort of a hypocritical religion. I've also got the idea that the religion doesn't accept everyone even though it says it does. I was then starting to get worried about being a gay Christian. What should I do?

Rick's comment: First things first - the best preparation for being a disciple of Jesus is to know for sure you are saved. That means not trusting your good works, baptism, sacraments, confirmation, being a cultural Christian or grace allegedly flowing from a church and instead, trusting by grace alone through faith alone in Jesus Christ alone to save you.

Second, once you know you are saved, it helps to understand what happens when you get saved.

Third, once you understand what happened when you got saved, it helps to understand how long you are saved for. Is your salvation temporary or do you have eternal security?

Fourth, every Christian has struggles because being a real disciple of Jesus is not easy. To help you grow spiritually, I have 330 pages of FREE Bible studies you can print out and teach yourself the Bible at home.

Fifth, ALWAYS read the Bible in context. That includes biblical cultural doctrinal historical linguistic literary and religious context.

For answers to questions gay Christians ask, please read our Gay Christian FAQ.
Aug 07, 2013
 It's more simple that you think
by: skinnedhornet

I think many people (mostly both ultra-conservative and ultra-liberal) drastically over-complicate this matter to suit their own ends. The Bible clearly says that homosexuality is a sin.

Rick's comment: I applaud your desire to bring common sense to the gay issue and I salute your kind heart toward the gay community. That is a blessing yet I must also point out that, No, the Bible does not clearly say that homosexuality is a sin. This website provides hundreds of pages of high quality carefully sourced info contradicting that claim.

But at the same time it shows that we are to show complete respect and kindness toward everyone no matter what their sin is.

Rick's comment: Again, I believe you are advocating a kind and loving attitude but let's phrase it more carefully. The Bible says nothing like the religious myth of unconditional love you've posited. The Bible encourages us to judge righteous judgment.

If we are mean and callous to a homosexual we only make their struggles that much more difficult. And to anyone who says that if you are a homosexual you will go to Hell, that is just completely false. The Bible says that those who reject Christ go to hell because He is the way.

Rick's comment: Now THAT is an excellent point. It has nothing to do with being gay or not. It has to do with whether we are saved by grace alone through faith alone in Christ alone and therefore are justified by faith, without any of our works being involved.

If a Christian Homosexual goes to Hell than I as a Christian will probably go to Hell for the sin of rage. Getting rid of homosexuality is not the way to heaven, Christ is the way to heaven.
Sep 05, 2013
 my gay son
by: mommy123

My son came out a couple of years ago, and I didn't react the way I should. In my defense, I don't know if there's a right reaction. I was raised to believe that homosexuality is a sin, and I taught that to my children.

That's probably the reason why it took him so long to tell me. I never told him that I didn't love him, thank goodness, because I've loved him from the moment I found out that he was in my stomach.

Rick's comment: Mommy 123, these links contain information which will be helpful to you as you come to terms with having a gay son.

Do you love us enough to hear our heart?

Is sex in a committed relationship sin?

When is it appropriate for a same sex couple to begin a sexual relationship?

Does 1 Cor 7:2 exclude gays and lesbians from marriage?

I think of his boyfriend as my own son, but I won't let them sleep together in my home (his boy friend spends the night sometimes) because they are not married. They can't get married where I live, but marriage is in God's eyes not man.

I've struggled with the idea that my son is destined to hell, but if I ( a mortal mother) loves him so much, of course God does.

I recently lost my 5 year old son, and I am devastated. My son's boyfriend was an alternate pall barer-on my request. I've lost one child and I will not lose another because of my own ignorance. If your child tells you they're gay, don't turn your back on them. God didn't.
Mar 09, 2014
 I wanna be a Christian but how?
by:

I have been raised in the church and that's all I know. I am married have 3 children and I have fallen in love with a woman. I have always had feelings for the same sex but have always been taught its wrong, and have believed its wrong but I met her and fell instantly in love. My husband and family and some of our church has found out. They're all praying for me to repent and turn away from this sin but they don't understand that what I feel for this woman is not about carnal pleasure. It is deeper than that. I see her and all I want is to hug her and never let go. I miss how active I was in the church and how I used to sing and praise the Lord and now I feel like the worst hypocrite if I do. I am struggling with loving her and giving up on God. But I really feel like she has my heart. I really just want to spend my life with her. I don't know what to do because I either live as though it never happened and let her go and keep living the life as I'm supposed to or give up on God and life as I know it and love her.

Rick's comment: You are in a difficult situation. When you got married and had children, you took on obligations and responsibilities to your husband and your children. The choices we make have consequences.

In some states, in the situation you've described, if you divorce your husband, you will most likely not get custody of the children. Is it worth losing your children for this woman?

You do not say whether or not this woman is saved nor do you say if you are saved. I encourage you to make sure you are saved.

Then you need to spend a lot of time praying and reading the New Testament scriptures until God gives you a clear answer. When God gives you a clear answer, write a note to yourself including the date, the time and circumstances and the passages of scripture God used to speak to your heart. Then obey God and do what He tells you to do.
Apr 08, 2014
 Thank You
by: Jas

Thank you so much for this. It's so hard trying to be myself without being critizied and hated by so many, my parents are the main ones. I'm their only child and I feel like crap that's how they make me feel. I feel so blessed to have found this website.

Rick's comment: Hi Jas- it gets better. These struggling times do not last forever. God has joy and blessing for you. Hang tough with Jesus as your Savior and trust Him to work things out. He WILL do that. Blessings to you.
Jul 28, 2014
 Sad and scared
by: Kei

I'm simply scared my bisexual tendencies are frowned upon and that I am not worthy of heaven-that I'm a disease or a disorder for simply liking my own sex a little. It makes me sad that I might be exempt from the glory of my gods love. I just hope it all turns out for the better. I am devoted to my religion and I hope my love for all genders in any way is not going to be seen as horrible anymore. I'm often alone and scared in my beliefs, caught in a crossfire between two "sides" I'm both on-LGBT and Christianity. Thank you for this reassurance. It's hard to swallow some times, but I have to keep going.

Rick's comment: Hi Kei - It's good to know FOR SURE that you are saved. The link explains how to know for sure.
Aug 13, 2014
 Are we supposed to keep sinning?
by: Joe

I'm just wondering how you can say Gays can be Christians?
I'm not hating on anyone, just curious.
Are we not supposed to to repent of our sin?
Are we not to live filled with the Holy Spirit?
Are we supposed to keep sinning just because we now have Grace?
Because if that is the case the I guess I can keep being a drunkard
I can go around sleeping with who ever I want outside of marriage
I can hate who I want
I can steal what I want

Do you see the point I am making?
I'm not saying that while we are in the flesh we can live sinless life, but Romans 12:2 says

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. (‭Romans‬ ‭12‬:‭2‬ NLT)

I'm just looking for understanding on this.

Rick's comment: Hi Joe - excellent questions. This website exists to answer questions like the ones you've asked. Click on any NavBar link and start reading. You will discover that some of your presuppositions about what the Bible teaches are off the mark.

Also please check out my Gay Christian FAQ - I answer 100 frequently asked questions there. The short answer is, Grace is not an excuse for living in sin. You seem to believe that is what we are doing - using God's grace as an excuse to live in sin but we are not.

We believe that everyone is lost and everyone needs to repent and get saved by grace alone through faith alone in the Lord Jesus Christ alone because He already died to pay the penalty for our sins and God has already accepted the penalty Jesus paid.

When we receive Jesus as our Savior from sin and from Hell, God the Holy Spirit applies the grace and salvation of God to us. After we get saved, we should go for God, live for Jesus and glorify God in all we do.
Oct 14, 2014
 Thank you
by: Anonymous

You have no idea how happy I am to read this..
Dec 16, 2014
 Gay committed relationship
by: Jay

I'm gay and I strongly believe in heaven and accepted Jesus Christ as my lord and savior. My question is: Can I be gay and practice same sex with my bf of 8 months and still go to heaven?

How does that work? I'm so confused. And I really want to go to heaven. :( - it's hard for me to abstain from sex at this point since we are devoted to each other. Please use scripture texts.

Rick's comment: Hi Jay - you've asked an interesting question. First, having sex isn't supposed to be a recreational activity you do with whoever you're dating. If you're looking for a committed monogamous partner to spend your life with, having sex with most of the guys you date won't get you the guy you really want to spend your life with.

Having sex isn't like playing soccer. Having sex with multiple partners often leads to STDs. There are practical reasons to wait for sex until you're in a committed relationship.

Second, why do you believe two gay guys who have sex in a committed relationship will not go to heaven? Please use scripture texts.

You see, the problem is that if you cite scripture to prove gay sex is wrong, all of us can then examine the context to see if the context is talking about two gay guys having sex in a committed relationship.

Third, Yes, of course you can have sex with your partner in a committed same sex relationship and still be saved and right with God. If anyone disagrees with that, please use scripture texts and we'll see if you're taking the verses out of context to "prove" your point.

I answer lots of questions like this on my Gay Christian FAQ.
Jan 24, 2015
 When can I be ready to be myself?
by: Anonymous

Hi. I don't have any feeling attraction to guys. I only like woman. I grew up with all my family Christian and believe that woman and man marriage not gays. And I have 6 sibling look up admire of me and I just have to do right thing and I wanna tell my family about me begin like woman not guys.

When can I just be me? I just scared losing my family that they are most important and what am I supposed to do? Will God accept me going to heaven if I am lesbian?

Rick's comment: Yes, God accepts everyone who comes to Him by Jesus Christ to be saved. Dear one, please spend some time reading this website and reading your New Testament. I have answers on this website for your questions.

God does love you and He accepts you when you accept Jesus.
May 04, 2015
 I'm scared God will not accept me into heaven
by: anonymous

I am scared that god will not accept me in to heavan. how can i be sure that he will. I am really depressed. and i have been this way for 1 year now i thought that i could shake it off but it keeps getting worse how can i get rid of the depression and know that god will love me and accept me in to heaven

Rick's comment: Thanks for writing to me. I sent you an email with lots of helpful info. Please click on the text links in the email for specific information. God is going to get you through this and life is going to work out better than you can imagine right now. I'm praying for you.

What must I do to be saved?
May 28, 2015
 Confused, helpless, scared teenager
by: Alex

Hi, I just found this site browsing through my web cause I think I might be Bisexual/ Lesbian. When I started wondering my brain started making assumptions and I felt scared. My mom and step-dad are very religious people and kind of homophobic so I really don't know what to do. How do I get rid of these feelings that scare me? How do I know what I am? Can someone help me? I'm confused, I feel lost and scared. I'm happy I found this site, I really am.

Rick's comment: Hi Alex - God has good news and peace of mind for us when we believe what He says in the Bible. The most important question to answer right now is: Am I sure that I am saved?

Many people grew up in Christian homes with Christian parents but they are cultural Christians instead of born again Christians. They grew up in church or they are religious or they are spiritual. They try to do the right thing but they've never personally received Jesus Christ as their Savior from sin.

Why do so many young people quit church?

The best preparation for being a disciple of Jesus is to know for sure you are saved. Everyone needs to be saved from sin and hell and the wrath of God. Here is what Jesus taught about hell and God's wrath.

Jesus teaches Hell 101

What is the wrath of God?

Getting saved and becoming a disciple of Jesus means not trusting your good works, baptism, sacraments, confirmation, being a cultural Christian or grace allegedly flowing from a church and instead, trusting by grace alone through faith alone in Jesus Christ alone to save you.

What must I do to be saved?

Once you know you are saved, it helps to understand what happened when you got saved.

What happens when you get saved?

Once you understand what happened when you got saved, it helps to understand how long you are saved for. Is your salvation temporary or eternal?

What is eternal security?

Hope this is helpful to you Alex.
May 30, 2015
 God accepts me to be gay?
by: Kevin

Hey Rick. I'm gay. I am still worrying and guilting because God doesn't allow to be gay. I know that God still love me. Is it ok to be gay? I still love with my boyfriend. It's be 9 months. Will you help me?

Rick's comment: Hi Kevin - Yes - that is what this website is about - providing a scriptural answer to folks who say it's wrong to be gay. I hope you will visit my Gay Christian FAQ and explore the rest of the website too.

It is vitally important to also know for sure you are saved by the Lord Jesus Christ. I've provided lots of info in my answers to comments so read through and visit the links I've provided and please let me know what God is doing in your life.
Jun 03, 2015
 I need a sign and I was led to this page.
by: Anonymous

Hi Rick, i've just found this article after looking for some help on the internet. I'm going througth a tricky time and i have no idea on who to turn to for help. I do beleive in god as i feel that througthhim my life has improved a lot but lately i've hit a bump in the road.

With the pressure of college and home life building up and the fact that i beleive i'm gay i just feel like crying. Reading througth the comments let me see that their are those who beleive that God does love me and there are those who disagree.

If you have any advice or have anything you recommend reading, please let me know.

P.S. I put my name as anonymous as i'm not ready to let the world know.

Rick's comment: God has a reason for leading you to this page and this website. First, I recommend making sure you are saved. Second, I recommend clicking on the links in the article and in my answers to others who have commented here.

Third, take time to explore my Gay Christian FAQ and the hundreds of FREE Bible studies we offer. God has a good plan for your life, Ephesians 2:10, if you are willing to be a disciple of Jesus.
Jun 13, 2015
 Thank You
by: TC

I am in a committed relationship with a same sex partner and every day I can't help but to think I'm wrong and this should be stopped because of my religion. I guess I didn't see the big picture which is that God still loves me and I thank you for reminding me.
Jun 25, 2015
 heaven/homosexuality
by: mel

God loves the homosexual, He saves all but does the homosexual also go to heaven?

Rick's comment: Hi Mel - Yes, all saved people go to heaven, including saved gays and lesbians and bisexuals and transgender people.

What must I do to be saved?
Jun 26, 2015
 quit my sexuality?
by: mel

i need to understand something... you said that when you saved you will go to heaven. i am saved. i believe in God, and i believe that Jesus Christ died for my sins, and was raised again to prepare my place in heaven. but does this mean that i need to "quit my sexuality"? i love my partner very much, we want to get married. we go to church together. if i am an active homosexual, does this still mean im saved?

Rick's comment: Hi Mel - Jesus died to save us from our sins, not to change our sexual orientation. Please read my Gay Christian FAQ for more information.
Jun 29, 2015
 Thank you!
by: Mel

Hi Rick - thank you for your kind words. it makes it easier when there is someone that doesn't condemn you for being gay. thing is, my father wrote me off when i "came out" about 9yrs ago. he doesn't even mention to anyone that he has an older daughter. my mom is still praying for me to become straight. she believes that all gay people will go to hell. she thinks that you can't be christian and gay. she will still talk to me now and again, but i am not included in their lives.

i am however christian. i love Jesus, and even though they cannot except the fact that i am gay, i wish they could just except that i am still human. i don't want to force them to believe anything, but it would've been easier if they could think of me as a daughter, sister, cousin, person.. where can i find your book? thank you for your inspiration, and your kindness.

Rick's comment: Hi Mel - You're welcome. God has blessing and fulfillment and joy for you as you walk the path of His purpose for your life. That doesn't mean life will always be easy. Instead, it means that God does have a plan for our lives, Ephesians 2:10, and abundant blessing, Ephesians 1:3, because we are already seated in heavenly places in Christ Jesus, Ephesians 2:6, because we have received Jesus Christ as our Savior, John 1:11-12, Romans 5:17, 10:9, 13.

The print copies of my book are sold out - I have no more available. I do have the simple eBook available here for $7.99.

Gay Christian 101 eBook - $7.99
Jul 01, 2015
 re: my son who is gay
by: Tina

Good afternoon, been doing research on your page. My mother n law is hating my son who is gay, she doesn't recognize of him us her grandson, don't have no pictures on her face book nor she mention about my son. My son came out of the closet I believe he was in 10th grade, he is now 19 yrs old.

Can you help me if there is a verse that God loves all his children, that God created my son to be who he is, and God never makes mistakes.

Rick's comment: Hi Tina - Yes.

John 3:16 "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.

John 13:34-35 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.

Romans 5:8 but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God. who loved me and gave himself for me.

Ephesians 2:4-5 But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, evenwhen we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ— by grace you have been saved—

1 John 4:9-11 In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.

I am reading a Christian Book which states that God allow things to happen for a reason, and the he loves everyone. If he didn't want Friday of legalizing marriages, he would have stopped it. My mother n law wants proof if it states in the Bible that it's okay to be gay, then she would apologize to my son and my self. I don't understand cause she doesn't live in a perfect world and she isn't perfect either. But yet she claims she is a Christian.

Rick's comment: There is not a specific verse which says it's okay to be gay just like there is not a specific verse that says it's okay to be heterosexual The fact that God says He loves all of us ought to answer the question.
Jul 07, 2015
 battlefield
by: *mel*

i am in a continuous battle with my family, with who i am and what everyone expects of me. everyone seems to have a whole mouth full when it comes to being gay. is it because they don't understand, or are we doomed?
i have been thrown with rosilind jukic and janet boynes - my heart is heavy. i love my partner dearly, but it seems that for some it is an abomination. what is love? should it not be kind, or shall we go with rosilind and be cruel to be kind as long as it is done in love? there is no way out of this battle - i am confused as no one talks about having children without knowing who the father is because atleast they are straight, but the "gays" are a very popular subject. seems that heterosexuals have a chance - whether you rape, murder, steal, swear, lie, whatever the case might be. when it comes to the gay person everyone has a stone in their hand, because they love us. i am starting to doubt the "love" of my parents and the "love" of fellow christians. how is it that the bible is always nicely trimmed to suit everyone's individual needs? if it was a choice being gay, would we not choose the easy path and be what everyone wanted us to be? i feel like i am walking a very bumpy gravel road, every time i think i am getting closer to something, i realize that i am back at the beginning. :(

Rick's comment: Hi Mel - I recommend that you get into some serious Bible study. For at least the rest of this year, back away from the battlefield and immerse yourself in scripture study. Here is a good place to start.

FREE Bible Study Downloads

Please do not be passive and do not allow yourself to stay trapped in a bad situation. Take action. You do not have to attend every argument you are invited to. Just say No and focus on learning what the Bible says, in context. You will grow spiritually, your outlook will become brighter and you will be eternally grateful.
Jul 15, 2015
 Thanks for your help
by: Adrian

Hi, i'm annonymous who asked for a sign and god led me here. I feel more comfortable saying my name on here now and i would just like to thank you for all your help. You've helped me overcome an obstacle in my life and without your help, i would still be stuck facing it.

I also wanted to let you know that i'm being baptized soon and one of my fears about it was being gay meant i couldn't be baptised. Knowing now that God made me who i am and loves me no matter what helped me decide to take the plunge.

So thank you Rick, you have been a great help.

Rick's comment: Hi Adrian - You're welcome - it's a blessing to hear the good news. God has a plan for your life, Ephesians 2:10, which includes enjoying fellowship with Jesus as you walk the path of His purpose for your life.

What must I do to be saved?
Aug 03, 2015
 Help Me
by: Anonymous

Hi, Rick, i'm actually wonder if I can still love a gay man and have a commited relationship with him. There are a lot of websites that I saw that says that homosexuality is wrong and is a sin. I'm very confused now because I want to be with God but I want to love a guy that cares about me and loves me for who I am. I'm just wondering if God still loves me eventhough I have a committed relationship with a guy I love. Please answer me because I feel lost at some point in my life.

Rick's comment: Hi Anonymous - This website refutes the confusing message of the anti-gay websites. I encourage you to read through these comments and my answers AND to explore this website.

God has good news for every gay and lesbian who seeks truth in the Bible. It is perfectly fine to be in a committed relationship with the man you love.

What must I do to be saved?
Dec 28, 2015
 Son is gay
by: A FATHER

My son became a Christian at a young age say 7 years of age and to this day he knows GOD and speaks to him daily, he had a girlfriend in the past but he is gay I think he struggled with this for years but he is Gay and he love the lord I am sure it's a struggle for him.

I come to believe because Jesus came to earth to experience our hurt and pain and daily struggles that he knows circumstances may lead others to a lifestyle that GOD despises.

example sexual abuse can lead to mental problems even a divorce a lack of a mother can lead a boy to be with another man all kinds of events can lead to being gay.

I feel he is a Christian and is sealed by the holy spirit when he became a Christian just not sure where GOD is on this. I see Jesus as our attorney because he can relate on the temptations the hurt.

Rick's comment: Hi A FATHER - Thanks for your comment. It is essential to base what we believe as Christians on what the Bible says in context. The Bible never states or implies that sexual abuse or divorce makes someone gay.

Jesus points out in Matthew 19:11-12, that born eunuchs are that way, from their mother's womb. The designation, born eunuchs, in ancient times, included people we now refer to as gay or lesbian and transgendered.
Apr 10, 2016
 Majority says no
by: Jeremy

Wish i cd believe god loves me. But my unlucky life makes much easier believe god abhors me lik all the good christians say.

Rick's comment: Hi Jeremy - I encourage you to keep seeking after God, keep working at being a biblical disciple of Jesus, keep walking in the Spirit, Galatians 5:16 and work on giving thanks daily for God's blessings in your life.

Are you reading the Bible daily? Have you read the New Testament from cover to cover? Read the New Testament time after time, mark verses where God speaks to your heart and make notes in the margins of your Bible.

God has more for you than defeat and discouragement. It may help to print the article, If you're a gay Christian, does God love you and read it daily too. God will get you through this valley and He will bless your life as you seek after Him.

And stop listening to the nattering nabobs of negativism.
Apr 20, 2016
 Thank you!
by: Sam

I'm really grateful to have seen this. As a gay Christian, having just heard other members saying how horrible gays are, I'm happy I read this. I think they don't really understand that we're all judged individually and we are supposed to love everyone, regardless of whether or not they're gay.

Rick's comment: Hi Sam - Don't let them snow you. Never allow anyone to rob you of Jesus and the joy of your salvation.
May 10, 2016
 Jesus and the gospels
by: Tina

I asked God to help me to know that being gay not wrong and my God guided me to read the gospels. I did! And in reading them I learned that Jesus NEVER said anything about homosexuality!

I believe I did understand what Jesus said and did not say!

And no matter what whether I am straight gay, bi, or gay. I believe God is unconditional love! So since reading His Word I feel I have been given the confirmation I needed! My relationship with my God is trust! A two-way friendship!

P.S. Straight

P.P.S.S. Lesbian

P.P.P.S.S.S. BI

Your choice. MY FREEDOM 💚

Rick's comment: Hi Tina - The most important thing you will ever do is receive the Lord Jesus Christ as your Savior from sin, hell and the wrath of God. Jesus took our place, as our Substitute, bearing the wrath of God against our sins so that we could be forgiven and saved. That is the Gospel, 1 Corinthians 15:1-8.

God raised Jesus from the dead so we would know He accepted and was satisfied with the payment Jesus made for our sins. Now, if we want to be saved, we must accept and be satisfied with the payment Jesus made for our sins, which leads us to receive the Lord Jesus as our personal Savior.

What must I do to be saved?
May 10, 2016
 Salvation
by: Tina

Thank you Rick for supporting Salvation! As that is the main gift for me that began my Trust! 😊

And I simply was addressing my understood facts about God loving us even if we are a gay Christian since in my experiences of people saying how the WHOLE bible days being gay is wrong. I wanted to point out that that was incorrect as I understand.

Rick's comment: Hi Tina - that's cool - I try to be precise so that my readers know that they need to be saved. Sometimes a comment is a perfect springboard to present the glorious gospel of Christ and I can't pass up the opportunity.
May 11, 2016
 Wonderful
by: Tina

Thank you for taking the opportunity! In bible college, I was honored to learn different passages of/about salvation and this is definitely one of the ways to open the window when the door is chained shut!

Take care and keep on! Thank you bunches! 💚
May 31, 2016
 Great site
by: David

Growing up in a strict religious home I lived for many years beating my self up for being gay. We need more people like you putting the message of God's love out there for us.

Rick's comment: Hi David - Welcome to the family! God has lots of love and challenges and grace and glory for His gay and lesbian children.

Don't let the anti-gay crowd steal your joy in Jesus. "Walk in the Spirit," Galatians 5:16, and live as a biblical disciple of Jesus. It's an adventure on the road to heaven.
Jun 05, 2016
 Jesus is love 100%
by: Alex S

Jesus is pure love!

We as humans can't grasp his love and forgiveness.

Jesus made the ultimate sacrifice when he died on the cross.

There is NO hate when it comes to Jesus/God.

Gay, Straight, Bi, Transgender Jesus loves each and every one of us.

Spread Jesus' message of love, not judgment.

Rick's comment: Hi Alex - Thanks for commenting. It is important to believe all of the Bible, not just the positive parts. The Bible, Jesus and God also say this.

"The foolish shall not stand in thy sight: thou hatest all workers of iniquity.

Thou shalt destroy them that speak leasing: the LORD will abhor the bloody and deceitful man."
- Psalm 5:5-6

"The LORD trieth the righteous: but the wicked and him that loveth violence his soul hateth.

Upon the wicked he shall rain snares, fire and brimstone, and an horrible tempest: this shall be the portion of their cup." - Psalm 11:5-6

"God judgeth the righteous, and God is angry with the wicked every day." - Psalm 7:11

"He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him." - John 3:36

"Ye serpents, ye generation of vipers, how can ye escape the damnation of hell?" - Jesus in Matthew 23:33

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - Jesus said that in John 3:16

"Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me." - John 14:6

How can I know for sure I am saved?
Jun 16, 2016
 Sinner saved by Grace
by: Loved One

Love the person, hate the sin!

Rick's comment: Hi Loved One - Why are you afraid to use your real name?

Ah, the old, God hates the sin but loves the sinner, meme.

Do you mean that God's displeasure is against sin but not against the sinner? Would anyone argue that God is displeased with murder but feels no displeasure toward murderers?

The problem with using, God hates the sin but loves the sinner, is that it is impossible to separate our innate sexual orientation from who we are. So when you tell us God loves us but hates us because we're gay, you're telling us that God hates us for who and what we are, for being who He made us to be, Matthew 19:11-12.

That kind of Old Testament approach ignores and skips over Calvary, where Jesus suffered the wrath of God against all the sins of all humanity. God accepted Jesus' payment for sins and has reconciled the world unto himself, 2 Cor 5:17-21.
Jun 25, 2016
 I'm happy
by: UK

I may not be gay, but I'm glad God still loves everyone, no matter who they marry, date or kiss. I have a family member who is gay and I still love her all the same - she loves God a whole lot too. Peace! :)
Jun 28, 2016
 I'm Confused
by: Rather Not

Hey-o. I'm very confused about my sexuality at the moment, and I'm absolutely scared that I may be attracted to women. I want to please God more than ever, as I have recently become a Christian and a believer in Christ. I've been having these feelings for a while, a bit before becoming a Christian, and I want them to stop BADLY.

Rick's comment: Hi Rather Not - I think it is wonderful that you are seeking God and looking to Jesus as your Savior from sin, hell and the wrath of God. Here is how to know for sure you are saved.

I'd do anything to be straight. I want to please God, and make him proud of me. I want him to happily accept me into His kingdom. I don't think I have been saved quite yet. I actively sin (gossip, have horrid thoughts, etcetera) so I'm afraid God may be disappointed. None of my family is religious, so I got into this by myself.

Rick's comment: The truth is, people do not change their innate sexual orientation. Jesus loves you as you are right where you are. Once Jesus saves you, He begins changing you from the inside out and He walks with you every step of your life from then on.

The largest anti-gay ex-gay group on earth, Exodus International, closed their doors and shut down their ministry after 38 years because, they didn't see anyone change their sexual orientation in all those years.

I do believe in God and His Son. I confess my sins to God every night through prayer. If I'm a lesbian, will I be cast down to Hell? Is homosexuality truly lust if you love your partner with all of your heart? And what if you wait until after marriage to have intercourse?

Rick's comment: I believe that gay marriage is perfectly fine with God. The page I linked to has lots of helpful info plus more text links to more information.

Many people use the argument "God dislikes homosexuality because it doesn't produce offspring" but what if you were to adopt a child and give them a home they could never have without you? What if you raise that child to be another follower of Christ?

Rick's comment: You may be surprised to learn that people who use the "gays can't have kids" argument NEVER use that argument against heterosexual couples who are sterile or heterosexual couples who are elderly and cannot have kids. In plainer words, it isn't a real argument that they believe - it is simply a fake argument they use against gays.

I'm so scared that He will hate me. I love Him with all of my heart, and I want to make him happy. I fear God. I really hope I am heterosexual. I hope from the bottom of my heart that I can just live up to all of God's standards.

Rick's comment: God has already told you He loves you - John 3:16 - so your job is to believe Him instead of doubting Him. Accept the love of Jesus and His FREE gift of salvation and rejoice in His amazing grace.

Isn't it better to have one simple lifetime of unhappiness rather than an eternity of fire? I'm just so confused on who to believe. I've read multiple sites, and I've talked to numerous people. Who is correct?

Rick's comment: I encourage you to read the excellent Bible study, Jesus Teaches Hell 101. No one has to go to hell because Jesus made a way for everyone to get saved IF they will trust Jesus as their Savior.
Aug 31, 2016
 Lost and afraid
by: Bridget

Hello - I have read a lot of others posting. My concerns are I am a lesbian and I'm a Christian I believe in Jesus as I accepted him into my life. Reason I need help into understanding judgment.

Am I doomed, going to hell? I know that no one can go to heaven on good works. But I do care for others and it scares me to go out and fall in love with a woman. I have had relationships and I end them due to fear of God. Is this normal to fear God and wonder if God loves me as who I am as a person?

I tried to love a man and I wasn't happy. Now I read so many post of others who hurt like me and are being judged by others who not understand how were feeling. God said judge be judge. Love others as God loves us. So how do I accept myself for being a lesbian and being accepted. I'm not a young person I have lived many years and have had my shares of heartache.

Just want to be accepted and be loved and not be thrown to the wolves who say they believe in God and read his word and still there cold towards another human. How is this right ? GOD GAVE HIS ONLY SON TO SAVE US FROM SIN. So does this mean loving someone of the same gender is a sin.

Rick's comment: Hi Bridget - Thanks for the great questions. God loves gays and lesbians and Jesus died for our sins and saves us when we call upon Him by faith. Jesus wants you to have the peace of God in your heart and the joy of the Lord filling your life.

Here is how to KNOW for sure you are saved.

Once you know for sure you are saved, it helps to understand what happened when you got saved.

What happens when you get saved?

Once you understand what happened when you got saved, it helps to understand how long you are saved for. Is your salvation temporary or eternal?

Am I saved for all eternity?

This website explains the clobber verses which many Christians rip out of context so they can condemn gays and lesbians. Once you understand the clobber verses, you will know that Jesus loves you and does not expect you to change your sexual orientation.

Jesus died to save us from our sins, not our sexual orientation. Loving someone of the same gender is NOT a sin and being in a committed relationship or marriage with a same gender partner is NOT a sin.

These links may also be helpful.

Are lesbians treated the same as gays in the Bible?

Does Romans 1:26 condemn lesbians?

How did you decide that Romans 1:26 does not condemn lesbians?

How can I reconcile being lesbian and Christian?

Is it true I will go to hell for being a lesbian and how can I know for sure?

Is it okay for lesbians to have children by sperm donation?

Does "likewise" in Romans 1:27 equate gay sex with lesbian sex?
Sep 03, 2016
 Sin/ homosexuality
by: aida cortez

the apostle Paul state in the bible should I persevere in sin so his grace will abundance? IN NO WAY BECAUSE IF HE HAVE NOT FORGIVEN THE ANGELS WHO HAVE FALLEN BUT put then in prison of eternal darkness how you expect to be forgiven and if he have not forgive Sodom and Gomorrah due of their homosexual tendencies you expect to stay in sin and be forgiving? God can not be mocked, your will reap what you sow and whoever sow for the flesh from the flesh you will reap corruption [eternal dead] separation forever from his communion.

Rick's comment: Hi Aida - I am thankful that the Bible never says what you wrote about gays and lesbians. I encourage you to do more Bible study.

What you believe about gays and lesbians is far from what the Bible says, in context.
Sep 03, 2016
 Lost and afraid
by: Bridget

That last post is what gets to those seeking God for understanding, we GLBT we're not here seeking war but understanding as to how one feels of self and who they fall in love with. It's hard enough and to have people say we're doomed.

I for one will never mock God or his word. I was seeking information as to HOW I'm feeling. If your following the word then you should have read about hate. God doesn't hate us. God hates sin and is able to forgive. So please be careful as to how you type out we're doomed to hell.

That's really troublesome and yet you probably sin as much as me or others. Please don't judge US. All we're seeking is understanding and love not hate. Thanks
Sep 28, 2016
 I'm gay, why doesn't God hate me?
by: Alan

Hey pastor, I'm new here and haven't checked any links yet. I've believed in God but I can't ever get a pure heart for God that doesn't also desire guys and I think I'm just stomping on his grace again and again. I don't act out with any guys but porn still traps me sometimes. I think I'm screwing up the good thing that God started. How do you escape being a huge disappointment to God? Hey you don't have comment, I'm thinking I'll always be this guy who will never be right and I'm kinda venting. Life's feeling like a dead end and I don't know how to fight it.

Rick's comment: Hi Alan - The glorious truth is, God loves you, Jesus died in your place and paid for your sins with His death AND, God accepted Jesus' payment for your sins. Here's how it works.

God has good news and peace of mind for us when we believe what He says in the Bible. The most important question to answer right now is: Am I sure I am saved?

Many gays are cultural Christians instead of born again Christians. They grew up in church or they are religious or they are spiritual. They try to do the right thing but they've never personally received Jesus Christ as their Savior from sin.

Why do so many young people quit church?


The best preparation for being a disciple of Jesus is to know for sure you are saved. Everyone needs to be saved from sin and hell and the wrath of God. Here is what Jesus taught about hell and God's wrath.

Jesus teaches Hell 101

What is the wrath of God?


Getting saved and becoming a disciple of Jesus means not trusting your good works, confirmation, baptism, sacraments, being a cultural Christian or grace allegedly infused through a church, instead, trusting by grace alone through faith alone in the Lord Jesus Christ alone to save you.

What must I do to be saved?


Once you know for sure you are saved, it helps to understand what happened when you got saved.

What happens when you get saved?


Once you understand what happened when you got saved, it helps to understand how long you are saved for. Is your salvation temporary or eternal?

Am I saved for all eternity?


Yes, joy and peace are available when you believe God's truth instead of man's lies. Who you choose to believe determines your peace and happiness. If you believe the haters, you'll never have peace. If you believe God and the Bible, your life can be a peaceful oasis of fellowship with Jesus in a sometimes crazy world.
Sep 29, 2016
 Thanks
by: Alan

Thanks for all the links to the good materials found there, especially the list of 276 before and after salvation truths. I've always taken it as an evidence of grace that in my heart and mind, I no longer want to actually be with another guy. The further I follow Jesus, the more I'm convinced that it would dishonor him.

Rick's comment: Hi Alan - God has something He wants you to do for Him - Ephesians 2:10. What we believe as disciples of Jesus must be based on what scripture says in context instead of what someone alleges that scripture says.

What Bible verses in context, lead you to believe that being in a monogamous culturally and legally accepted same sex marriage, would dishonor Jesus?

But the further I follow Jesus, the desires seem even more intense than before I was following Jesus and I've learned how corrupt my heart is. I trust that the blood of Jesus cleanses my heart but always seem to be back in this place where my heart has desires for something that I don't want to actually do. I end up hanging on to Jesus, that he is able to save me from this, as the only way forward.

Rick's comment: What does the Bible say, in context, that leads you to believe that Jesus intends to save you from desiring a same sex partner?

I genuinely want to be like Jesus and I deny these desires within and each day embrace the cross and each day look to follow Jesus. I actually do want to lose this life, my life of gay desires, and find life only in Christ.

Rick's comment: Being like Jesus doesn't by any stretch of imagination, mean you must live a celibate life. Celibacy is a relatively rare condition and also a spiritual gift from God, 1 Corinthians 7:7.

Some in the anti-gay crowd tell gays that they must live celibate lives, never knowing the joys of spousal intimacy, on the false premise that gays must take up their cross of celibacy, based on the unstudied opinion of the anti-gay crowd, not based on anything the Bible says in context. It should be pointed out that God saves us from sin, not from our sexual orientation.

I've chosen to follow Jesus but that desire for Christ often is matched by desires for guys that I actually don't want to be with. I believe God's shown great grace to me but wondering if I've just screwed up following Jesus, that his grace to me was in vain.

Rick's comment: 1. God created you and He created your body to constantly produce testosterone. Having sex with your partner is God's legitimate way of dealing with the sexual need He created in you.

2. Some gays live drunken drug addled sexually promiscuous lives. When they get saved or when they get right with God, they assume that God intends them to stop being gay and to be heterosexual from now on.

If that is the kind of life you previously lived, then, of course, God does not want you to live that way now. But that does not mean that God will change your sexual orientation or that God intends you to live a celibate life for the rest of your life.

1 Cor 7:1-4 tells us that one of the reasons for marriage is to avoid fornication. Having an orientation compatible partner is God's plan for avoiding fornication while also having your sexual needs met and meeting the sexual needs of your partner.

For the longest time, I've believed that battling these desires meant that I was following Jesus and was normal, but the more I'm finding how deep and present and new the corruption in my heart is, I find myself wondering if I am that new creation promised in the NT.

Rick's comment: What you describe sounds like the struggle between the old nature and the new nature. These links explain what is going on.

I"m saved so why do I still struggle with sin?

How should I deal with sexual temptation?

I know God hates the same sex desires of my heart more than I do. I'm not even sure what my question is. Thanks for all the materials.

Rick's comment: The only way you could know that God hates the same sex desires of your heart is if the Bible, in context, says that - it does not. None of the verses alleged to condemn homosexuality is in the context of two gay guys or two gay gals falling in love and spending their lives together as a couple.

All of the clobber passages are in the context of shrine prostitution - using same sex rituals to worship false gods. Ripping verses out of context and using the out of context verses to condemn yourself when, in context, the verses don't say that, is the wrong way to interpret scripture.

God bless you Alan, as you work your way through these issues.

Please keep in touch and let me know how things are going.

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Sep 29, 2016
 Sometimes I just need to get things better
by: Alan

Hey brother, I actually had hit a few of your links and didn't realize that the site was on the pro side of things. Am I a dummy or what? It's not like your site isn't called Gay Christian. I found your site thru googling and landed on this page about the love of God. I appreciate your fidelity to the Bible Rick.

I don't know how much is from how I was raised and how much is from the Bible, but I've always been convicted by my same sex attractions. The few times I've had sex with a guy were back in college and usually after drinking, so I guess that counts as promiscuity. Spiritually, SSA has always hurt my walk and been a challenge to faith. But it is hard even when I'm being faithful and the whole thing often leaves me feeling like I'm in a whirlpool. I know a lot of my brothers at church like to pound bible on this, but I've never found it helpful when others feel the need to convince me that my faults are faulty.

I'll check out your site more (and maybe read better) and get back to you about the biblical and spiritual foundation that makes a difference, at least to me. Hey man, thanks for taking the time to respond and not pounding from the other side of things.
Oct 20, 2016
 I feel like God doesn't love me still
by: Don't want to say

Idk what to say really. I'm just scared if I'm bi or gay, will I go to heaven? I feel like I won't. I feel like he won't accept me in to heaven and I will be sent to hell.

Rick's comment: Hi Don't want to say - The glorious truth is, God loves you, Jesus died in your place and paid for your sins with His death AND, God accepted Jesus' payment for your sins. Here's how it works.

God has good news and peace of mind for us when we believe what He says in the Bible. The most important question to answer right now is:

Am I sure I am saved?

Many gays are cultural Christians instead of born again Christians. They grew up in church or they are religious or they are spiritual. They try to do the right thing but they've never personally received Jesus Christ as their Savior from sin.

Why do so many young people quit church?


The best preparation for being a disciple of Jesus is to know for sure you are saved. Everyone needs to be saved from sin and hell and the wrath of God. Here is what Jesus taught about hell and God's wrath.

Jesus teaches Hell 101

What is the wrath of God?


Getting saved and becoming a disciple of Jesus means not trusting your good works, confirmation, baptism, sacraments, being a cultural Christian or grace allegedly infused through a church, instead, trusting by grace alone through faith alone in the Lord Jesus Christ alone to save you.

What must I do to be saved?


Once you know for sure you are saved, it helps to understand what happened when you got saved.

What happens when you get saved?


Once you understand what happened when you got saved, it helps to understand how long you are saved for. Is your salvation temporary or eternal?

Am I saved for all eternity?


Yes, joy and peace are available when you believe God's truth instead of man's lies. Who you choose to believe determines your peace and happiness. If you believe the haters, you'll never have peace. If you believe God and the Bible, your life can be a peaceful oasis of fellowship with Jesus in a sometimes crazy world.
Dec 25, 2016
 transgenders
by: L.T

What if someone becomes transgender before finding christ? And they already have the parts of a male or female. could they still go to heaven if they repent and is baptized?

Rick's comment: Hi L.T. - Thanks for the excellent question! Everyone who receives Christ as their Savior from sin, hell and the wrath of God IS SAVED. It doesn't matter what parts they have or don't have. It doesn't matter if they have had gender reassignment surgery or if they're just taking hormones and haven't had surgery yet.

God LOVES transgender people just as much as He loves everyone else.

Jesus teaches Hell 101

What is the wrath of God?


Getting saved and becoming a disciple of Jesus means not trusting your good works, confirmation, baptism, sacraments, being a cultural Christian or grace allegedly infused through a church, instead, trusting by grace alone through faith alone in the Lord Jesus Christ alone to save you.

What must I do to be saved?
Feb 08, 2017
 I'm confused
by: Jordan

I am dating a transgender girl but I am trying to live a Christian life. I feel like God is telling me to leave her because being gay is a sin, & if I want to go down this righteous path then I need to give my girlfriend up.


Rick's comment: Hi Jordan - The first thing to do is make sure you and your girlfriend are saved.

Second, the Bible never says being gay is a sin. Please click on any NavBar button under, What The Bible Says, and discover that it's not a sin to be gay or in a gay relationship.

Third, being transgender is not gay and dating a transgender girl is not gay - It's simply part of what it means to be human.

Fourth, please DO NOT be the kind of Christian who refuses to read and study the Bible but who thinks he know the Bible because someone somewhere told him the Bible says...

Man up! and start reading the New Testament from Matthew to Revelation and then read it again. Get to know the Bible for yourself so you can be a real Christian.

There are far to many fake christians these days. The world doesn't need anymore fake christians.

Be a real Bible believing Christian - for your good and God's glory!
Feb 23, 2017
 Struggles
by: Bmd

I too am lesbian and I'm in a committed relationship. I've not always been this way, but found myself falling in love with another woman. I'm so very scared because I've read in the Bible this:

Surely you know that the people who do wrong will not inherit God’s kingdom. Do not be fooled. Those who sin sexually, worship idols, take part in adultery, those who are male prostitutes, or men who have sexual relations with other men, those who steal, are greedy, get drunk, lie about others, or rob—these people will not inherit God’s kingdom. 1 Corinthians 6:9‭-‬10 NCV

I don't wanna go to hell for loving someone.

Rick's comment: Hi Bmd - It's time for you to do some reading and study. This entire website has great information which will help you understand 1 Cor 6:9 and other clobber passages. Many Bibles are poorly translated when you read the clobber passages. The BEST translation is the old King James Version.

On the NavBar, under What The Bible Says, click on 1 Cor 6:9 and start reading. There are also text links to click on for more information as you read down the page.

It is very important to know FOR SURE you are saved so this is a great page to know that for sure.

What must I do to be saved?
May 08, 2017
 God still loves you
by: Christine Hartley

Hi I'm not much good with words but I believe that is so true. God loves us all, amen and I so much love God, amen. X

Rick's comment: Hi Christine! Thank you for your sweet comment. I appreciate you!
Aug 18, 2017
 but...
by: Jonas

living my life with jesus by my side and the way God wants me to live it is the most important thing to me. yet, i am a gay transman and i am having a lot of trouble. it does say in the bible that god created man and woman, that it disgusts him when two men are together etc. i can not just look past that.

Rick's comment: Everything the Bible says has a context. If we ignore the context, we lose the key of context and we lose our ability to understand the Bible.

The context of Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13 is NOT two gay guys or two gay gals falling in love and covenanting to spend their lives together as a couple.

Is Lev 18:22 about shrine prostitutes?

i am part of a specially blessed community and i get to experience so many miracles and signs and i get to hear god's true word there. but i also know that they are against homosexuality and won't even talk about transsexuality. (they don't condemn people, they just comdemn the sin) i am so torn. jesus is worth everything to me and i would live my life hidden away back in depression if that's what it takes to not be lead astray by the devil. but a part of me wishes that i could be myself, love who i was born to love and still have this wonderful and close relationship with jesus. i am so desperate for an answer that god has not yet granted me. i don't know anything anymore.

Rick's comment:Hi Jonas! God led you to this website because He has truth for you here. I explore the clobber passages in great detail and explain them in their biblical cultural doctrinal historical linguistic and religious context.

Please take time to read my Gay Christian FAQ AND also, my pages about the clobber passages on the NavBar under, What The Bible Says.

You do not have to be in bondage to Christians who emotionally and spiritually assault who you are in Christ as a gay transman. You do not have to live a life of depression and despair.

Has it ever occurred to you that some of your depression and despair comes from the unkind unbiblical views you keep hearing from the people at your church?

How long will you expose yourself to their false teaching?

Please don't give up. Keep reading, believing and learning the Bible in context. Always value what the Bible says in context more than you value what anti-gay and anti-trans people tell you it means.
Sep 12, 2017
 Random
by: Brianna

Hey rick I have had disbelief in God a couple times but he saved me more than once and I do believe in him and everything but pastor says that God can change me to being straight but I like my sexual orientation my pastor also says that gay people would be past down to the nov-something or whatever but is it true I really want to go heaven and still be gay can you give me proof that God really accepts gays in heaven even if it's a sin?

Rick's comment: Hi Brianna - I have answers to your questions on this website.

1. "God can change me to being straight" - That is not something God does. God saves you from your sins, not from your sexual orientation.

Exodus International, the largest change ministry in the world, completely shut down their worldwide ministry in 2013 and admitted they never saw anyone change their sexual orientation in their 38 years of ministry.

Exodus International Shuts Down Ministry

2. Getting saved is a one time thing. No one ever gets saved more than once. Here's how to get saved.

What must I do to be saved?

3. Once God saves you, you are saved forever because God doesn't do things sloppy and half-way.

When God saves me, am I eternally saved and safe?
Sep 12, 2017
 Random
by: Brianna

Thanks I meant by saved as in protected from things that almost killed me. so I can stay gay and still go to heaven?

Rick's comment: Hi Brianna - I already answered that question.

1. God saves us from our sins, not from our sexual orientation.

2. God saves us eternally and everyone who is saved goes to heaven. Nowhere in the Bible does it say: "Except for lesbians and transgender and gay people."
Nov 06, 2017
 Atheist Logic
by: Elmore

Being Gay and Christian is equivalent to being a Jewish Nazi. I can’t believe you people are this stupid. It would be hopeless for me to tell you the truth about religion and the evil that it brings into this world. But I do have a question for you. If God hates sin then how come he doesn’t burn the sin in hell instead of the sinner?
Feb 13, 2018
 I don't know what to believe
by: Haley

I accepted Jesus into my heart when I was 10. A few years after, I discovered I was a lesbian. I've been in love with a girl for almost two years, and the entire time I've struggled with balancing my faith. I feel that in my heart, I believe that having a committed Christ centered relationship is not a sin, but I can't tell if I just want to believe that it if it's the actual truth. I just don't know anymore and it's terrifying.

Rick's comment: Hi Haley - There is no quick easy magical answer which will put your heart at ease. The first thing you need to do is, know for sure you are saved.

What must I do to be saved?

The second thing is to read and study the truths on this website about being gay until you understand the clobber passages. No one can do that for you but if you seriously want truth, God will show it to you.

God wants you to know His truth and He will make it clear if you are willing to read and study and take notes and ask questions. You can do it and I pray God's blessings upon you as you walk the path of His purpose for your life.
Jul 28, 2018
 Thank You
by: Ashley

Finding God when the world says that they hate you kind and that God hates you too. It is hard. It makes you want to give up all together on God and faith. But, when you know God loves you and he has touched your heart, he simply will not give up on you! Thank you.

Rick's comment: Hi Ashley - Be encouraged! Trust by grace alone through faith alone in the Lord Jesus Christ alone. Jesus is the Savior of all who believe on Him for salvation and He saves us for all of time AND eternity.

What must I do to be saved?
Nov 08, 2018
 Heaven
by: Jeni

When I think of the gates of heaven, I think about the ten commandments. If you are having sex for lust, no matter what you are sexuality, you are sinful. I believe gay couples are judged badly if they commit adultery, having sex outside of your committed relationship, I think we all should be held to the standard God set early on.

Rick's comment: Hi Jeni - Good point. The purpose of the law is to be our schoolmaster to bring us to Christ so that we can get saved by faith instead of trying to keep the law, Galatians 3:24-25.

What must I do to be saved?

I cannot imagine God not loving everyone who loves others, cares for the poor, honors his/ her parents, has no other Gods be it money, the computer, sex, power, etc.

The problem I had with gays is that the ones I knew would make such great life partners and parents. That’s been solved. It’s about committed love, to others, to life partners and to most of all God.
I’m straight and married for 45 years.
Jan 05, 2019
 I cannot find my comment
by: Brianna

Help cannot find the comment after I sent but if you see it then idk why i can't.

Rick's comment: Hi Brianna - No comment goes live until I've okayed it. That's why comments don't post immediately when you make them.

I thank you for your long comment but didn't post it because this is not the place to post comments about Satan and demons and doubts and haters.

I pray God's best blessings upon you and a strong settled assurance that you are saved and all your sins forgiven through the blood of Christ.

What must I do to be saved?
Mar 12, 2019
 Respect lgbt
by: Ml - iluvu

Awww, to be honest i cried at least 5 minutes i'm in depression actually and i'm a lesbian and i need answers if God hates me.

Rick's comment: Hi - I hope the article and the comments have encouraged you. God has joy and blessing for you when you read, believe and obey the Bible and live for Jesus.

What must I do to be saved?
May 29, 2019
 I'm Gay
by: Olivia Billingsley

My mother has always told me that if I am gay or bisexual I am going straight to hell. When I found out I was bisexual I decided not to tell my church because I was scared. Now I'm not so scared anymore. I know now that the lord Jesus Christ is bigger than me and my problems. So thank you for showing me that.

Rick's comment: Hi Olivia- Jesus loves you and wants to be your Savior and Friend.

What must I do to be saved?
May 29, 2019
 Hey
by: Hi

Hey I’m a gay Christian.

Rick's comment: Hey - That's great! I pray that God will bless you abundantly. Here is helpful information you can share with others so they can get saved too.

What must I do to be saved?
Jun 12, 2019
 Thank you.
by: Julie

I have struggled with my bisexuality severely in the past. I just couldn't accept that God could possibly see love as a sin, as I have deeply loved people of the same gender, and it was love that I did not think I was capable of feeling. How can such be seen as a sin? I still feel bad that some verses in the bible might suggest that homosexuality is a bad thing, but I'm very grateful for your reassurance.

Rick's comment: Hi Julie - I'm glad we can be a blessing to you. I hope you'll explore this website. We have tons of helpful info to help you grow in Jesus.

What must I do to be saved?
May 16, 2021
 Confusion
by: Lulu

I’m really not sure where to begin. I’m what they call a "backsliding Christian," I have a hard time getting out of Wicca into Christianity.

(This isn’t what brings me here, it’s just additional layering to my issues.) I recently had a dream about being physically intimate with a woman I’d fallen in love with at first sight. (I haven’t met anyone in waking life yet, but some things in the dream were a real slap in the face.)

We had the being in the closet discussion (she was out, I wasn’t) and I even gave a detailed explanation as to why I never came out- being bisexual, and having married young to a man, I felt it wasn’t important.

(This is true in waking life; and I am now divorcée, which adds yet ANOTHER layer... I divorced due to abuse, which if we’re honest has "put me off" of men. It’s very prejudiced but I can’t help it. I just don’t trust men now.)

Shortly after, a person in the dream asked if I was the one who had been in love with "Squirrel Girl," a rude nickname for a classmate I dated and had strong feelings for. She was my first kiss and I think I did love her deeply despite only being a teenager at the time.

(In the dream, he asked it to help me, to make a point that people at least suspected I wasn’t 100% straight and it wouldn’t be as shocking as I had thought.)

When I woke up, everything hit kinda hard. I’ve been in the closet from a young age. I remember asking my mom a what-if question when I was a young teen if she’d love me if I were lesbian (I didn’t really know what bisexual was at the time) and her response was "you better not be!"

Sixteen years later, my parents are more accepting of gay people and even support gay marriage. But I still fear they wouldn’t accept same-sex marriage if it were me. To top that off, I wonder in part how God could love me if I were with a woman. I’ve had a spiritual experience with God, and I know He does love me, as He once sent an angel to comfort me when I was suicidal as a teen.

(I begged God for help, and I had a very spiritual dream that night after crying myself to sleep.) Despite this, I’m still haunted by my youth in an ultra-conservative Christian environment. I’m terrified of, "what if I’m wrong in my research and interpretations?"

What if I’m wrong that God loves me no matter what and I go to hell if I fall in love with a woman?

Not to mention the potential disruption it could cause in my family- which, I’ve forgotten to mention, I’m disabled and I live with my parents so we can help each other because my disability causes chronic pain and makes it impossible to work and now my mom has a chronic pain condition and cannot work.

I really don’t want to ruin things with my parents, I love them and want to continue to help them, but I also feel smothered because I can’t be my true self.

I just don’t know what to do or who to talk to. Do you have any advice?

Rick's comment: Hi Lulu - Thanks for commenting. I hope we can be a blessing to you. I hope you'll explore this website. We have tons of helpful info to help you grow in Jesus.

My first piece of advice is to completely and forever abandon and walk away from Wicca. If you are a Christian, then live like a Bible believing Christian.

After you've walked away from Wicca:

Read your Bible every day.
Believe what you read in the Bible.
Obey what you read in the Bible.
Pray to Jesus every day.
Reject Wicca every day.
Live for Jesus every day.

Finally, make absolutely SURE you are saved by taking the Good Person test at the following link.

What must I do to be saved?

May God give you peace in your heart as you trust the risen Christ Jesus alone for salvation.

Christ bore your sins in His body on the cross and paid the penalty for your sins.

God the Father accepted the payment Jesus made for your sins.

Are you willing to accept the payment the risen Christ made for your sins?
Apr 07, 2022
 Thank you
by: Anonymous

I felt compelled to leave a comment. I just want to thank you for this website. It's given many people hope.

Rick's comment: Hi Anonymous - I'm glad we've been a blessing to you. Thanks for letting us know.

God loves you and has good things coming your way as you live for Jesus and believe and obey the Bible.

It is important to know for sure you are saved by the risen Lord Jesus Christ. Here's a link that explains how to know that for sure.

What must I do to be saved?
Aug 25, 2022
 What must you do to be saved?
by: Emily

Hi there! I am glad that you are spreading God's message of love and acceptance. I've found a Bible translation called "The Mirror Bible" that affirms that Christ saved all, regardless of faith profession. That all are already right with him and there is nothing we need to do to attain his Grace. Have you heard of it?

Rick's comment: Hi Emily- Thanks for commenting. Yes, I've heard of the Mirror Bible. It isn't really a Bible. It is the work of a man who doesn't believe the Bible and who therefore changed the Bible to line up with his anti-biblical beliefs.

The Lord Jesus Christ is the Incarnate Word - the word made flesh, John 1:14, AND because Jesus Christ is God, the written Bible comes from Jesus Christ.

Here is what Jesus and the Bible say about Universalism, the false teaching found in the Mirror Bible, that everyone is automatically saved.

"He came unto his own, and his own received him not. But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name:" - John 1:11-12

You have to RECEIVE Jesus as your Savior. Getting saved is not automatic.

"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life." - John 3:16

You have to BELIEVE in Jesus as your Savior. Getting saved is not automatic.

"He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God." John 3:18

If you don't believe in Jesus, you are not saved AND you are already condemned.

According to Jesus - he's speaking in John 3:18 - You are CONDEMNED ALREADY if you haven't believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.

"He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him." John 3:36

You have everlasting life IF you believe on the Son, meaning, the Lord Jesus Christ.

If you don't believe on the Son, you are not saved, you are not headed for heaven AND the wrath of God abides on you.

That's what the Bible says and that's what Jesus says.

What the Bible says and what Jesus says is the OPPOSITE of what the Mirror Bible says.

Please do not be deceived by the Mirror Bible.

It is important to know FOR SURE you are saved from sin, hell and the wrath of God by the risen Lord Jesus Christ.

Here's a link that explains how to know for sure you are saved by believing on the Lord Jesus Christ.

What must I do to be saved?

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